the guilt factor | ADHD Information
ok, all parents make decisions for their kids. But for special needs kids, the decisions are major like what school to go to, or camp,or what med, or what doctor etc.
Now we all try our best and we are all human but sometimes we do make the wrong decision.
my big problem is when I make a wrong decision (or a decision I thought was right, turns out to be wrong) I can't get over it. I loose sleep, I second guess myself, I feel so GUILTY, it eats me apart.
Who else feels like this and how do you deal with it??
No one is always going to make the right decisions. What is right now may prove to be different at a later date. Try to feel that you made the best decision you could given the information you had at the time. Perhaps looking at things in shades of gray rather than right and wrong may help. Don't be too hard on yourself...just pick up and go on and be thankful you recognize what can be improved. It is rough being a parent I too am the same way at times. I have said around the house that I need a vacation alone no husband or child when the stressers are on high to get my vent out. Well this week my daughter said to me "you might be happier without me" that broke my heart. I then planned a special day for us two and told her I have no life without her that she is my life and sometimes mommies need a mommy day. So when you ask her where is mommies everything she smiles and says " I am here" then we hug and snuggle.you shouldn't be too hard on yourself, I believe that everything happens for a reason, if you make a decision, we make it based on what we think is right nobody ever deliberately makes a bad decision, we always do what we think is best, if it turns out not to be a good decision, we're learning from it, for the next time........
then if all else fails, toss a coin and blame it on the coin
(that was to hopefully put a wee smile on your face)
It's OK to make mistakes. We all make mistakes. You just deal with it. It's all about dealing with stress. Beating yourself up and punishing yourself isn't going to help anybody. So, try to treat yourself better. Maybe yoga or meditation would help. And it's always helpful to remember this: some parents have it way worse than we do. We are lucky. Hope you feel better tomorrow. :)