Hi all im new to this i dont think its ADHD but im in need of advice.
Right here it goes,i have 5 children aged 17 B,16 B,13 G,7 B,3 G....my 7yr old boy behaviour has started to change he's angry all the time e.g when he comes home from school and ask him to change out his uniform he goes crazy shouting screaming throwing toys (or anything to hand) then he will go upstairs change out of his school top but leave his school trousers on, so we have to go through the same process again, then again for dinner time for bath time and then for bed time....its only when you ask him to do something or you say no to him. eg my partner (who has bought my son up as his own for the last 6yrs) will simply say "can you go put your bike in the shed" my sons reaction is "scream shout he punches himself in the head, crys to a state where he feels sick or gives himself a banging headache, He dont sleep as he should its usually well after 10pm before he goes to sleep...at school they say his temper is ok but hes a bit behind with his reading and writing so im wondering if that ads to his frustration?
Tonight just before i joined the forum i went upstairs because i could smell something and i caught him putting a plastic toy onto his lamp bulb and melting it. I told him this was wrong and he just smiled and said ok,i asked why he did it and he said it was bored but this was at 9.15pm when he should of been sleeping.
Dont get me wrong i love my little boy and will do anything to get him through this trying time and when his not in his angry, distructive mood hes so loving i just need a few tips a bit advice. I have a school nurse coming to chat with me Wednesday i just hope its not something im doing wrong
any advice will help me so much.
thanks
Debs
Hello,
Well, I am not sure if your son is AD/HD. I can say that I have angry issues of my own in regaaurds to my son. It sounds like maybe your son isdoing a few things. 1st, have you had your son tested at school, his IQ and such? My son was mad at everything when he would come home, this was because he has a reading and writing problem.but, what was shocking to the school was, although he tested very low in those parts, he tested very high in vocab, and reasoning...... to the point where they said he would be in gifted classes if his read and writing cought up. Maybe your son is really bored, not just at school, but maybe he needs more stimulates at home to. This summer (though it cost a ton of money) I sent my son to science camp. He loved it. and let me tell you, he hates school! Over the last year he has liked science and space, so this was great for him to do.
2nd,. You need to have him tested for AD/HA, because this could very well be one of the problems.
Lastly, Dont sweat it so much. I have a son that screams until he gets what he wants.....that has lasted hours. It is nerve reaking but, dont give in. See help with a theripist, my son loves "Miss Nya". They help a LOT! and give good advice as well.
As for playing and not sleeping, at least your sleeps in his own bed, mine is seven and is scared of the dark (and everything else) which means he sleeps with me. Try turning off the TV about an hour before bed and reading with him. This calms them down and relaxes then. It works for me and my TV hound. Hope this helps, at least a little. Talk to you soon, Bigmama
thank you bigmama i will do as you suggested its good to know im not alone here.
thanks again Debs