I would just like to comment that it probably is not a good idea for you to use your email address openly like this on a forum. You want to change your screen name and the heading of your post, for your own privacy.
Welcome, though! I don't have a child this age, so I'm afraid I can't be much help.
Did you actually get a diagnosis? May not even be ADHD. If not, you may need other types of interventions and stims could be bad. Always good to know for sure what's going on. When you say "aggressive" what does he do? Aggression isn't part of regular ADHD, and "aggressivity" isn't a diagnosis. Did you ever see a Psychiatrist or a NeuroPsych?
If your son is hurting other kids, then you can't blame the parents for wanting to protect their own children. It is our job to protect our kids. It's a tough situation you are in.
First of all, I don't think you can blame the aggression entirely on ADHD. There may be something else going on and you should have a further evaluation with a specialist (neurologist, psychiatrist or pediatric behavioral specialist).
Your son should also get some sort of therapy - behavior modification, social skills classes and individual psychotherapy (or some combination). If you haven't considered it, you might want to check into some sort of therapy for yourself - maybe a 'parents of ADHD kids' sort of support group (your local CHADD chapter can probably help you finding all of these).
I believe the website for CHADD is www. CHADD.org
Hello I'm new to this !! My son is 5 years old and was diagoais with ADHD and aggressivity. I didn't know that I had ADHD as a child. I was shocked to hear that from my sister that she was ADHD as well. But my parents never wanted medication for us. My son is a great child when he was sleeping for years, but we always had to be on our toes. We go to birthday parties and parents pull there children away from mine. He does gets excited when he can play with children is age.. I did put him pre-school and he did the same there. got exceited and was not thinking what he was doing ( never hurt anyone.). Plus we have neighbors that there son is the same age, he can't play with him because he gets excited (my son). They think he might hurt him. We are there to watch him ! (my son !) I'm just not sure what to tell my son that they don't want him to go over as well as my daughter. I think its because he will follow him to there house. So both are denied and they come home crying. Well after that I had my sone tested and he was put on medication ( Clonidine- is a generic ) because he was only aggressive with me, he told me that its because I work full time. Thats what he told me.. My husband and I have talked about the medication and we find him thinking more of what he is doing (action). But I think my neighbors should think that I should have put him on medication. Don't get me wrong we are all friends but I think they are against me putting my son on medicaion.. Please help me ! I'm getting awrong message from them and I'm not sure if I should be friends with them anymore ? What should I do ?
mrsanvil67@aol.38909.6855092593I agree with what everyone said too. As far as the medication goes, that is totally your choice. It really doesn't matter if your neighbors disagree with him being on medication or not, he's not their child, they don't know him as well as you do, they don't know what is best for him, it's not their choice. Don't let people influence you on that decision one way or the other. It's a very personal decision that each of us has to make, and no one else can make it for us. Don't expect outside people to understand what you go through, what your son goes through, what your family goes through. Most people just don't get it. Unless they have a special needs child, they probably will not understand, and it's very easy to judge when you aren't in that position. So you just keep giving him whatever treatment course you feel is best for him.