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Is your daughter off meds this summer?  Stimulants can exacerbate anxiety.  They did for my son.

Jill, you're not a bad mom.  You're working like the dickens to get help for your daughter.  And it's good that you're trying to work out things with your husband.

 

Today I met with my daughters psycholgist regarding screening for PDD and he went over the criteria and does not feel she has it but did share it looks like she has OCD and Anxiety.  I take my child back in two weeks for the screening for both and from the information I have makes sense and looks like it is a definete.  Now I am feeling like a bad mom and very sad.  I admitted to him my husband and I have been arguing a lot and that he constantly yells at her.  I told him I am almost positive my husband has ADD himself and  has trouble controling himself at times which causes the arguments in the home.  This weekend my brother is taking my girl so we can have another good talk for our child.Yes, please do not ever blame yourself for the things that are going on with your daughter.  As a mother of three two of which have mental illnesses, no that that is the most important thing to remember is to not blame yourself.  There is nothing that you have done or that you could have changed to change the outcome of what is going on with your child today.  Just keep remembering that.  I know its hard and at times like this it is really hard to not question your self but remember none of this is your fault.

Jillette, wow, I can really relate to your struggle.  You are getting help for her (and yourself) and it WILL get better, just not immediately.  We just started seeing a psychologist also(weekly) to help dd in dealing with her anger and hopefully to help me parent her the right way.  Also, when I'm feeling overwhelmed, I get books and read about how to deal with ADHD issues.  Here are a few:  Seven Steps to Homework Success, Overcoming Underachieving, and Angry Children, Worried Parents.

Keep your chin up.  You are helping your daughter and it is going to pay off in the long run!

Jillette.

I read everything I can on these boards. One thing I know FOR SURE by your posts is that you are a great Mom!!! 

I'll be watching for your updates.

Our talk went well and today we are on the same page for discipline.  I went over what the psychologist told me and I do not expect change to occur overnight but to be aware of it and soon it will happen to stop the yelling and screaming.  My husband on his own agreed he needed to take care of him to help our child.  As for her upcoming results I am okay with it now the shock is over now it is whatever will be will be I still love her no matter what and now is the time to just be there to help her. 

    The testing will start in two weeks and by end of summer we will know for sure then i will share the results.  I do see the ocd and I am seeing the anxiety in different situations the psychologist again has hit it right.  When he gave us her origional diagnosis the ODD I did not see right away and disagreed with then I read into it and saw it for myself and agreed.  I will admit the man knows his stuff.

Jillette, I'm glad you're going for that evaluation and wish you all the best. Unfortunately, many professionals think high functioning autism means something it doesn't. WE heard "his eye contact is too good" "he's too friendly" "he can transition from room to room without crying so he doesn't have it" and the gamut. None of those things mean squat. Most psycologists don't understand high functioning autism, and I still feel your daughter may be on the Spectrum...so many of us were told our kids weren't, and WHY they weren't, and they are. However, you are in good hands, you are getting a new angle, and you are an awesome mom...trying hard to help your daughter. In the meantime, you may want to do your own sort of research, which is what I did. If behavioral therapy doesn't work, it's still good to see another person for another idea of what may be wrong. We stuck with our psychiatrist for three years. He had a great rep and was usually good for psychaitric stuff, but, in the end, we found out he knew nothing about ASD, as witnessesd by his astonishing comment about "can't be autistic because he can transition from room to room without crying." He didn't know anything about PDD-NOS or Aspergers, although he thought he did. Anyways, whatever happens, I trust you to help your daughter...she is very pretty too! :)

Thanks for the support.  And smallmom she is off meds for the summer and for the research study that will begin late August. I also did not wish to wait for the study for testing because I wanted an answer before school starts to add to her IEP if necessary.   Her psychologist said years ago summers off was the norm but nowadays it is supposed to be better to keep them on all year round for better results but did not question my choice.  Once the shock wears off I should be fine. 

 

You sound like a great Mom to me and are very proactive in the choices for your child.  She is lucky to have you and will appreciate it in the long run!!!!  .IMac38944.5734722222.IMac38944.5736805556ditto

Jillette, you are a wonderful mother! Many of us have seen you struggle on this site to find answers to help your daughter. There is no doubt in my mind that you are a warm, loving mother who is doing her very best to help her child.

I'll pray that you find the right diagnosis and that you and your husband can get on the same page to do what is best for her.

jillette... I  kinda of understand how your are feeling...I've been there and said similar things about feeling like a bad parent.   I think because we love our children so much we don't stop to see that there are things we can't help.  We might be able to do things differently at times but none of us are perfect.  It sounds as if you have and are doing everything possible for your child.  

My soon to be ex and I argued a lot in front of our son and I too felt that he was add/ad/hd. It is hard to sit back and have people yell at you.  I unfortuanately argued back sometimes feeling like I needed to defend myself.  With the help of my counselor I have learned that I'm not so bad.  

My situation was not pretty as there was some abuse and that is one of the many reasons I finally left.

I hope you and your husband can work things out for the good of your child.  My situation was not so lucky, sadly enough.  I feel that my son and I are in a heathier environment now.  To some degree I think his dad is too.  He isn't always easy to get along with but I've seen my son make some remarkable improvement along with some great care from his doctor and staff. 

Take care of yourself and goodluck to you and your husband.  Being able to communicate concerns is something I never was able to do with my ex. He wouldn't see both sides of the coin.

Today my sister-in-law is going to watch the child and my brother is going to talk to us and have us have a long talk together, my brother is a  minister.  It is worth a shot for our daughter whom comes first.  The idea is to try to resolve our issues and work together on the same page with our child.  I will keep you posted.Good luck and we will be hoping for the best for you all!