Has your child been mistreated? | ADHD Information

Hi all,

I read all the stories and let me tell you., I am well hated by my sons teacher. I am like a hammer,if I think somthingis wrong, they hear about t, and I dont mean on the phone. The shrink when they see bigmama coming down the hall to get my son, if something is amist. For example, My son was in Kindergarden and he is a car rider. Well, I was in class late and called my husband a told him that I couldnt get my son, so he went, but was late and had to walk into the office to pick him up. He said when he was outside the office door he heard yelling, and to his shock when he opend the door, there was our sons teacher with her fingure about an inch from his nose, screaming about how bad he was. When my husband said"what the matter", she turned and acted like she was the bell f the ball."Oh, Mr. C, how are you today (bat, bat of the eyes). Oh nothing he was not listening". OH yeah, guess who payed her a little visit in the AM? I walk into her class and told her (with now one around) If I every hear, or find out that she spook to my son like that (inculding if my son told me something) I would be waitting that very day outside next to her car, and she would like that convo! I also told her that I would have her job by days end! I wondered all year why my son would bang his head on the dashboard and cry he hated school and wouldnt come out of the car. I figured it out right then. Thank god it was the end of the year and he only had to indure and few more weeks.

In first grade however, word must have spread about me cuz he loved his teacher. she was the sweeties women you could ever want for your kid. She helpped me so much with info and sevices for my son. Her little girl has AD/HD as well, so I think she was more understanding. Needless to say I never took that walk down the hall all year! I also am respected a lot more by the office (principal, and IEP counselors).Go figure?

There is only one thing worth fighting for in this world, thats your kids. And weather it is verbal, or in some cases physical, you do what you have to, to get the job done! Thanks Ya'll, Bigmama

It is unreal what people will do anymore, because they know no one will do anything to them. There is no one to help, and I'm seeing it more so, if it has to do with special education. The way people treat these kids breaks my heart, so I can't even think of how a parent of these kids must feel. These "so called" teachers that mistreat these kids should know better. The "self called" teachers had a choice whether or not they wanted to become a special ed teacher. They also have the choice to leave if they can't handle it Yet they choose to stay there and take their stress out on the kids, just for the little extra they get in their paychecks each month. These kids didn't have a choice in the matter. Sorry, but I love kids, and don't think any child should be mistreated.

I agree with good 1. I still feel education should have to change not the kids. RN[QUOTE=good1]

My friend tried to take up for her kid, but from what I hear from her, it didn't do a bit of good, and things got worse for her and her kid. I mean, come on, when two asst principals act like these two did, then you have to wonder if it would have done any good to go to higher up people. To me, people act as if these kids are not human, or shouldn't be here because they have a problem. I say these people have more of a problem than these kids will ever have. [/QUOTE]

Your friend needs to go to the state DOE with this. This is harassment and its illegal. If the state doesn't do anything to stop it, she needs to take every bit of proof she has and go to the local papers and news stations with it. It has to stop.

Have her check out this site www.wrightslaw.com It has great legal advice

Yes, this happens a lot with Se kids and even non se kids also. When people get we all need a program that fits our individual needs in school. This will continue to happen. I say educate the staff on how to help se kids or fire them. No child should have to work during recess or pe. Thank god for those careing/good teachers.

Has your child ever been mistreated because he or she has ADHD, or that he/she is in special ed? Has your child been mistreated by teachers or any staff members of the school ?

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Yes. Whenever a child is kept in from recess or gym or any activity they are good at or enjoy to get "extra help" or have a chance to get caught up, they are mistreated.

My son was mistreated that way for years. There are other things also that I consider mistreatment but suffice it to say, the ones I mentioned are the ones that bother me most next to getting yelled at in front of his peers because "he could do it if he wanted to, tried, wasn't so lazy, etc!"

barb I have to ask what you would suggest if your son is missing recess because he doesn't do his work or need extra help... would you prefer he make a 0 on an assignment or not learn how to do a certain skill? I only ask because this is an age old question that educators have.

I agree children should not be kept from activity class or p.e./matter of fact in our state that is not allowed.

I go back and forth on the recess, however. At my school kids can't stay after school due to lack of transportation for the most part.

I'd appreciate your feedback on this.

Studies have proven that children, especially children with ADHD NEED time to unwind. Their minds are like muscles and actually get stressed so they are less able to focus and less productive. When they get a chance to walk around, even if its passing out papers, and running at recess, etc, they do much better for the rest of the day.

There are free times built in to the school day for extra work time in the grade school in my son's school. They go to the library and from what my son says, no one will help him there. They act mad if he asks for help. They need people who can help the kids in study halls, not just babysitters.

This year my son asked another teacher who works with kids on remedial math to help him. That wonderful man fit him in and made a tremendous difference. He actually brought his math grade up and got most of his recess time since he wasn't so far behind. He also completed much more of his work in school and was more willing to work on homework since he didn't have the fear of having to try to do his math homework.

Something teachers refused to listen to me about was that I can't help him with math. I can do basic math and bookkeeping/accounting but have a block when it comes to anything that isn't common sense. Math in high school was a nightmare for me. I think teachers should assume that if a child is struggling in something, there is a good chance he inherited that weakness from a parent and may not be able to get the help he needs from home. I stopped being able to help him with everything he had in math when he was in third grade. Keep in mind that I aced my final in college in accounting, so I am by no means stupid. I have a high IQ but can't do algebra, let alone geometry.

I really believe that if a teacher can help a child learn how to learn according to his learning style, that child will be able to figure things out on his own a good share of the time. If he is interested in something and wants to pursue it, he will be able to because he will know how to learn.

They need to learn how to use their strengths to compensate for their weaknesses. My son had teachers who really cared and went out of their way to help him. My only fault with them is that they are so brainwashed in college that there is only one way to teach that they are shooting themselves in the feet with ADHD children. They just don't see that every kid didn't come from the same mold and lacks self discipline. They do lack self discipline but it isn't from poor parenting or laziness. They need to learn skills step by step, as things don't come naturally to them that others take for granted.

I could go on and on. Look at small children. Look at the ways they learn and the amount of knowledge they have acquired before kindergarten. They go to school and suddenly become dumb? No, they are just pushed into a very restrictive learning atmosphere which is totally against the way they have mastered and done so well with. Some people always need the multi-sensory approach to learning. They don't suddenly outgrow it when they turn 5 or 6.

I'll stop but I think you can see where I am coming from.

I have a teacher friend that teaches JR high and she just recently recieved her Masters in special Education. We often have discussions about special education and adhd. I get a lot of insight from listening to her and other teachers talk about some of the limitations set on them by the school district as to what and how they are able to teach.

You are very right on not every kid can learn the same way!!!! But, the teachers I personally know try very hard and they have a passion for helping all kids. The teacher I speak about is very passionate and often gets teary eyed about these kids!!!

I think educating teachers by parents that have kids that need extra help is a must. Here in our town the teachers deal with 23 to 30 students per class - I often go in to help at both my daughters schools - not always in their class, but wherever needed to show my support.

One program I see that works well for kids that need tutoring or extra help , is the buddy program. The older grade kids that are good students get to go to the lower grades and be the buddies to the K through 4th graders. I have seen this work for kids that have some behavioral issues also.

You are your childs advocate - I would rather see parents that are proactive and interact with the schools then not - there are a lot of parents in our community that just want to send their kids to school and be done with it.

I have a friend that has a son that was badly mistreated in school. Tell me if you think this is bad, ok?

In 6 grade, the teacher made her class take off one of their shoes and put it in what she calls "shoe jail", if they were not ready for class. She also had him write 6 pages just because he was talking about WWF. Another teacher made a point to run outside the school before her son came out to say things like.. walk faster, John (not his real name), pick up your book bag .. don't drag your book bag, John. His mother was there and heard this. He didn't have but a few steps to take before he was out the side door, and he didn't drag his bookbag. Another thing happened there, the asst principal called my friend to say that her son would have detention if he was late to class anymore. My friend ask, what class is he late to? She replied, I don't know, I was ask to call you. While on the phone with her, my friend told about this other boy picking on her son, and that her son said that he didn't know if he should tell or not. The asst principal replied ... well, at least he knows that much.

She had enough of that school and moved him to another school for 7 grade.

Well, guess what? That same asst principal moved there too.

When she (my friend) was there for meet your teacher day. They had their folders from last year (6 grade) on their desk. Right on top was a IEP that had my friend's name forged on it. Her husband saw it in there first.

While in the 7 grade, he has been shoved hard in the back on a field trip and was told to walk faster, John, by an asst teacher. He was walking with his mother. How is that for being bold? The same asst teacher had him after school while his mother was waiting up front of the school for him. After a while she went back there to see what was taking him so long. As she got to the corner to turn and go down the hall to his classroom, she heard BIG TIME YELLING. She walked in to find her kid choking back tears, and the asst teacher standing over top of him yelling her head off at him. My friend (very shocked by this) ask, what is going on here? The asst teacher said, he couldn't tell me what his homework was for Friday. This happened on a Wednesday.

There was another asst principal that took his note book and hide it. They were complaining he wasn't ready for class. How could he, when the jerk was playing "hide and go seek" with his note book? How she found this out, she was at an IEP meeting and ask since it is almost the end of the year, could he just bring in some paper? John can't find his notebook anywhere. The asst jerk replied, is his note book blue with red trim around it. My friend said yes. He said, I have it in my office. She said, why do you have it in your office for? He said, I was seeing how long it would take him to ask me for it. She said, How does he know to ask you for it? John was looking in the lost and found for it. He then went to his office to get it. The jerk brought out and my friend (trying to stay cool) ask him, could you please give it to him? He said, I have a better idea, why don't you take it home and hide it in his room and when he finds it, it will freak him out.

In 8 grade, John got another teacher and asst teacher. I guess they thought since she had a copy of the forged IEP, and seen other things as well, they better at least make themselves look good.

While waiting for her son, my friend met another woman that had moved her son from another school to this one. She told my friend that the reason for that was.. when they give them detention, they make them have it in the restrooms.

My friend told the women .. well, they treat these kids like cr**, I guess they think they belong there.

It's a shame. They have it hard and other people (jerks) can't make it even more stressful for them. They should be a shame of themselves. God sees this, you know?

Oh, yeah, my friend's son has a bad foot, so he does the best he can when it comes to walking.

What they should do to these "self called" teachers is ..

when they mistreat these kids, they should have them take one shoe off and place it in the "bad teacher jail box", and give them detention in the restroom, where they will have to white 6 pages on what they did and why they shouldn't have done this in the first place. LOL

I AM NOT SAYING ALL TEACHERS ARE BAD, AND IN NO WAY AM I TRYING TO GIVE ALL TEACHERS A BAD NAME. GOD BLESS THE GOOD ONES !

good 1, When I can get control of my anger, I will have plenty to say on the subject of what is happening to your friend's child. Right now, I can't even think coherently.