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I am sure that I am not alone on this. Dose anyone else get negative feedback because you choose to give you child meds for ADHD? For us it is family members. My husbands side of the family has a strong line of adhd in his family. They are the ones who don't believe in what we are doing. My husband and his sister each have 3 children all 6 of the kids are adhd and recieve help from a doctor. Another of his sisters has 2 children who have adhd but she will never admit it. Guess what at family functions her two are the two that misbehave the most. From being bullies to going into our homes and taking out things that are not even toys but expensive things we own. when you go into her home you can see alot of the remidies that some say will help with adhd. My inlaws are so adhd but will not listen to us. They think it is awful that we do this and they are the genitic key to where this is comming from in our family. Go figure.

If the meds help your kids, who cares what they think? I wouldn't even talk about it with them. IMO it's not useful to blame anyone for passing along a genetic/neurological problem though. They probably don't even realize that they have it. Either way, I'd just never discuss it with them, and ask hub not to, and do what I've been doing. It's your kids, not theirs, and it's none of their businsess. You live with your kids and know what's best for them. Doesn't sound like the remedies are helping those other kids. MomWI38915.2514930556.IMac38944.5704861111

Ditto to MomWI - there are always people that think they know better.  I think if ADHD is problematic to people and they don't seek help, they are in denial!!!

Our society has come a long way in understanding adhd and other medical issues, some people just want to stay in the dark ages.  Kids need their parents help and wisdom now so they can be whole, functioning adults when they are older.

Oh yeah - I don't want to be rude or a potty mouth, but one of my favorite sayings is this:

Opinions are like a*sholes, everybody has one!!!

From what I am finding out is family is supporting it is friends or aquaintences you meet that do not understand.  I normally handle them by ignoring.  I had an old co-worker I still communicate with from a previous job and when I told her my child had ADHD her response was "don't all kids have that".  More education is needed.I agree with what the other's have said.  I feel that we owe it to our children to do what we feel is in their best interest.  I have often noticed that those who are against the medications do not understand the full scope of the situation.  I usually try to take this into consideration.  My best friend always had a problem with my my daughter being medicated, that is until I got diagnosed and started taking medications myself.  She initially thought that this as a bad thing, until she began to notice positive changes in how I acted.  She commented that she could see that I was feeling much better, and has not mentioned either of our meds since!I do not discuss my son's adhd with my husbands side of the family much.  My side seems to have a clue, or at least pretend to, but his are in need of meds themselves.[QUOTE=LCdc]

Oh yeah - I don't want to be rude or a potty mouth, but one of my favorite sayings is this:

Opinions are like a*sholes, everybody has one!!!

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spoken like a true texan!!!  i agree.  my family was like that, but when Damon was 4 my hubby took me to Las Vegas.  We left damon with my parents.  she said she wasn't going to give him his meds, no problem, she had to learn the hard way.  so, at the end of day 2, my mom called the hotel at midnight wanting to know how to get him to go to sleep.  lmao  she has no problems w/ meds now.  lol  he's 8 and doing great.  a long weekend w/ you child not on meds will give them a dose of reality and then agree.  lol

Twingle, the grass is NOT greener on the other side of the fence.  We get slammed because we choose NOT to medicate.  You do what is right for your children, you are not out to make anyone else happy. 

My husband discussed our daughter's ADHD with some of his family members.  Some of them told him how awful and dangerous the meds were (with both outdated and outright false information). Surprisingly, some told him they had treated thier children when they were in school. This is suprising because, it had never been mentioned before. I think because of the potential negative responses, some parents just keep it quiet.

This board makes it easy to get info on the experiences of other parents and thier kids, as well as, from grown-ups who have adhd and thier experiences.

I think we should do what is best for our kids nd if meds help them so be it.

i have said this before so i am worried about giving this meds to preschoolers but it is our choices and nobodyelse business

Crazymama

I am glad that they don't bother with my children but I feel bad for them and my husband. They are hurt by the way they are. My in-laws are so disfunctional that it is better that way. But I tell my husband that we need to worry about our selves and the kids. If he worries to much about how they are it will only make things more difficult for us. We see them at christmas and thanksgiving and that is enough. We just tell the kids they are busy, the older kids see what is going on but my son is still to young.

Twingle, I choose to be grateful that my in laws are so detached, makes my life simpler.  I have enough drama without their help.  I also have 2 MILs, one in Iowa, and 1 10 miles away from us in Oregon.  The one in Iowa is so far away, she really can't be too involved, and the step MIL is too worried about her "real" kids and gkids.  Don't tell her that, cuz according to her she treats them all the same.  Whatever.

As I thought I am not alone.

  Crazymama that is exactly like us my family kind of understand because they spend time with us. My inlaws don't bother much with any of us. They are so confused that they do not even know that they need meds also.

Ogram if I could get my inlaws to spend 10 minutes alone with my kids it would be a first. My girls turned 16 last month and theys till have not come over to see them. They live half hour away max. They have never stayed with my son and my girls spent one afternoon with them when they were young.

If my sister-inlaw told them the sky was falling they would believe everything she said. She is the one with the two children who are not on meds.

I tell people who are negative about meds and adhd that if they would like I have alot of information about this and I am willing to give them copies so they can be informed of the info. that I have. They usually change the subject and drop it.

Thanks everyone