I forgot what every mother knows... | ADHD Information
It's amazing to me that since my childs dx with adhd, every little bratty behavior, every crying fit, or just anything he is doing, we tend to analyze. "Oh its his adhd." "His meds are wearing off." "His meds are making him too emotional." I think we forget that even "normal" kids behave like this too. I need to remember that he is still a 6 year old boy, who can at times act like all 6 year old boys. Thanks for the eye opener.
everyone has an oops moment, myself, I have had several. Don't beat yourself up over it.Boy did I have a big DUH moment tonight. The last two nights my almost-six-year-old son has been a monster. Defiant, sassy, argumentative. He
has been better than ever lately and I was so afraid that this was a
regression. So I have been bringing out the big consequences and going
to battle. Not very fun.
And he has been in swim lessons for the first time ever. He is doing very
well conquering his fears, and the last week or two he has been going
underwater. See where this is going?
When I picked him up tonight, my little demon was under a table with his
hand over one ear. He came out when he saw me and was hostile and
uncooperative, and never took his hand off of his ear. He never actually
mentioned that his ear hurt until I asked him. He had eighteen ear
infections before he got tubes at 30 months, and he never indicated pain,
he just raged. I remember that if we were both in tears by 8:00 in the
morning, I would call the doctor, and they would see us just based on
that. How could I have forgotten?
I was so busy looking for ADHD issues; sometimes an earache is just an
earache.
Oh ya-I've done that. It seems Erik rages everytime he has strep throat. He will be a complete butt head for a couple days while he is coming down with the infection then he will be laid out which was always the sign he was sick. He slows down for nothing (except strep throat)
Now he is 8 he is better at communicating pain rather than acting out. But when he was 4 he had been "bad" for several days. It ended up he had poststreptoccocal glomerulonephritis. He was voiding blood and was swollen up with fluid. And here I just though it was his behavior.
I felt like crap
quixote,
What a great story to illustrate that before our kids "got" adhd, they were just kids and we treated them that way! Many times I have often read posts on this board and thought, "Can't that just be a kid being a kid? Why does everything have to be indicative of a diagnosis?" What a good wake-up call, and I'll keep that one in mind when dealing with my own little man! Thanks.
ditto
4myson, your 4 1/2 year old allowed a dental procedure? I am very
impressed. What a brave little guy- great self control.
My son and I just got back from a four-day camping trip, and he was in
rare form the whole trip. Hyper, impulsive- I literally could not take my
eye off him for a moment. He had his first major public meltdown in
about nine months, and a few other episodes where he was just
overwhelmed. There were a lot of kids everywhere we went, and his
differences were very glaring to me. But it was worth it to escape 109
degree Sacramento for 75 degree Santa Cruz.
The interesting thing was, he finally relaxed and was himself when we
pulled over for lunch today, halfway back home. He perked up and we
had an actual conversation about something, and I felt my mouth doing
something wierd and it was... smiling. Odd how those moments just
sneak up on us sometimes.
southern belle, you are so right...
I just today was thinking the same thing.
My son got out of the dentist office and was not so happy with me because that "stupid dentist" was making him stick a cotten stick in his mouth so he wouldn't bite his lip or cheek after he was numbed for some dental work. At first I thought his attitude was related to his ad/hd and then I had to stop and think... he's 4 1/2 and he was just frustrated like any other kid or adult that had been given a shot in the mouth. 
I think I can remember a time that I called my dentist a "stupid idiot too.
We probably all should stop and think before over analyzing. We might save ourselves some headaches.
I wonder if they could make a "chilli out" pill for us parents to quit thinking about it so much. I just wish I wouldn't obcess so much over every little problem and could just enjoy my child like I see other parents do.quixote... I love your sense of humor... ("Odd how those moments just sneak up on us" your statement is so true ) I think it is important for us to keep laughter and a sense of humor. That at least helps me.
We just got back from a small vacation and I experienced some of the same stuff you did. My son was more impulsive and hyper , too. As soon as reached closer to home he was back to being pleasant and loving. I guess it was the familiar surroundings. I really think the lack of routine is what does it for kids with ad/hd issues. I plan on going to Disney World next year. To make it a pleasant trip for us I think I am going to stay on their property. It is more costly but I think it will be well worth it. I'm hoping that it will allow us to take breaks more easily and have rest periods as needed.