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mikmum,

I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. You did nothing to deserve this difficulty. My 2 kids are no longer in the same room. The youngest (with ADHD) would keep bugging her older sister just to amuse herself.

If you haven't already, you should look into all the sleep hygeine information on the web (conistent wake/sleep times, dark/cool/room, relaxation, bedtime rituals, warm bath). Even though it is summer, I get my kids up when I go to work (my husband is home with them). The warm bath worked for my daughter, but she would not take a bath every night, so I started warming a blanket in the clothes dryer and putting it on her. If she got out of bed, she would get cold and learned to stay in bed better (not perfect). That does not work this time of year with the summer heat, but we were able to get better habits started during the winter.

You might also look into Melatonin as cr1234mr suggested. I have even given my youngest benedryl an hour before bed when she has even just al little sign of allergy just to help her sleep.

Keep trying everything you can, and hopefully others will have more suggestions for you.

Which child (or children) has ADHD and is anyone on medication? Only asking because if there has been a change in med schedule, that could affect the sleeping end of things.

vickie38917.6365856482{{{hugs}}}  Well, when my kids are really wound up at night, I give them melatonin.  Otherwise they would keep each other up half the night.  Sorry you are having a hard time.  Hang in there, you can do it!Melatonin, what does that do? I dont know if you would know this, but would that be the same name here in uk, even if i could buy it here?

Even if it quite them down would be a miricle!!!!Well after i posted that first post, my baby fell down the stairs, becoz she was coming down again, she is ok, i held her & cryed some more, becoz i felt guilty that she hurt, she is ok now, i let her stay close to me for a while i think she was shocked for a while, but ok now.

Boys are asleep now & i have chance to breath had a cuppa & calmed down a bit.

Phoned g in a state, but he could'nt leave as he was doing a wedding gig.

Sorry to go on, got no-one else i can talk to, thanx to everyone who cared Im in tears as we speak, its 8:50pm here & my children normally go to bed around 8-9 o clock, well tonight the baby fell asleep round about 6 o clock & the boys stayed up after they have there evening meal its settling down time, but they never liston to me, im wound up telling them to sit down with a book or watch tele! In the end becoz they got me shouting the baby woke up, so i sent them to bed, now ive been up & down the stairs about 50 times, the baby is up & down the stairs, in & out of her room to there's, they've been to the toilet 4-5 times already, i can hear the baby laughing & in the boys room, ive told them to ignore her, but they are playing with her, i got really mad with mikey earlier becoz he was jumping around on his bed, so i sat him on the bottom step & everything was quite for 5 mins so i knew it was him distubing everyone, then he started moaning he was tired & wants his bed so we had a chat about how it isnt nice for mummy to get mad & shout & he said he understood, so i let him go back to bed, within 2 mins he is jumping around again & im taking marbles away & he dont care, so i smaked him, im so angry, why dont they liston, WHY? WHY? WHY?, what have i done so bad in my life to diserve such misery, they are so bad, i hate myself & i hate them its been like this now for the past month I dont know WHY?? Im a good mum & im constantly giving postive, but im always fighting with negative, how does that work? I though children meant to copy you, that we are there examples, it does work in this case, im sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sad, i cant & dont want to do this nomore, i hate my life at the momment, there is no help, & even if there was what can they do they cant take adhd away from my child, im sad, hes sad we are all sad. http://www.christianadhd.com/biblestudy.php

mikmum, maybe this will help!
[QUOTE=IMac] Mikmum, have you ever been assessed for ADHD yourself?
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No, do i sound like i am??

Ive only recently been feeling like this anyway. .IMac38944.567962963

Our children in general are harder to put down and when my girl is in her mood she does not care either about any punishment.  It is hard being a parent especially dealing with what we are going through I have had many of nights where I was ready to quit and lost my cool and I only have one.  Take a deep breathe and take a time out yourself that is how I would get my sanity back and by posting like you did.  I would change up your behavior plan possibly or change things around a bit.  Do you have a psychologist you use? If so utilize him/her to the fullest for assistance.

  What I do and was instructed to do was when she ( my girl) misbehaves I give her a time out depending on what she does or she loses a privilage or something she is into gets a time out (meaning a toy or game) and she has to earn her way out of it.  As for how long the time lasts depends on the child's choice they either have to earn it back by good behavior and  not just in a day or can do a chore to earn it back of my choice and then they decide how long the punishment lasts.  That way we do not look as bad.  I hope I did not confuse you and good luck Jill

mikmum it is called melatonin as well here

the child psychologist presribe it.he could also tell you if he thinks you have ADHD as he sees you often.that is how i went to get dxd after jude's one mentionned to me i was acting like i had ADD.

I have no advice so Im sending you huge hugs!

 

Mikmum,

I know exactly how you feel My kids are good kids but they just drive me to my witz end at times but I commend you for going up and down stairs because I can't do it I also give my oldest son benedrayl 30 minutes 2tsp before bed and it works I have one girl and two boys but since my son is ADHD and he's violent so I don't have my youngest son sleep with him we let him sleep in our room on a foldout bed in our bedroom so we know he's safe.

Thank you every one im feeling alot better, now, im off to get the boys from school, then we are going in the pool, i have never been so dark & down in all my life, this is the deepest darkest place i have ever been. But im am better today thanx to you guys for letting me vent