Really lost patience with ds last night. | ADHD Information
I always try to get someone to watch my girl and I too have lost it a few times with her and feel guilty later. I try to use each time a learning experience how not to handle it if the situation occurs again.
HLL YES! Almost daily. Fortunetly my ds is at an age where I can leave him at home for a couple of hour when I go to events with my other childern
. Don't beat your self up because you felt that you over reacted to the situation--it is a hard thing not to over-react. When I feel like I over-reacted to a certain situation I try to use it as a learning tool and promise myself that I will do better next time. You sound like a great mom--and even great moms have their limits. RebekahOh, yes, it certainly happens! Welcome to the board. Try not to beat yourself up about it. I doubt if you scarred him for life! The other parents....who cares what they think anyway? That's the attitude you have to have. Nobody's perfect. So now say to yourself, "I'm a good mom, I'm a good mom". Again, welcome aboard!Hi all!
I just found this site today. I am wondering if anyone here was ever in the same situation.
I have 2 ds: my eldest who is 8 has ADHD and my youngest is almost 4 but a momma's boy who requires a lot of attention.
Last night, the 3 of us went to my youngest son's soccer game. My eldest was sitting beside me for the whole hour and he pushed my buttons for every seconds of it. He brought his Gameboy and I thought that it would occupy him for a good part of the game but he choose to bug me, chase his little brother, make noise, ask me silly questions. I asked him many times to stop but he never did . I couldn't take it anymore, rolled my eyes a few times and let my frustrations out in front of other parents. I had never done this before and I feel horrible! I love ds to death but he really pushed my bottons. In the van on the way back, I actually yelled at him and I sent him to his room (which I almost never do). I was emotionnanly drained and I feel like I didn't handle the situation the best way I could have (to put it mildly!)
He started taking Concerta in the spring but we stopped for the summer and we are thinking of starting the school year without it and seeing out it goes.
I feel like the worst mother in the world! Has this ever happened to anyone of you?
Catou
Trust me you are not alone. I often feel I'm the worst mom in the world too. I usually take time to calm down after I 'loose it', then make sure I appologize and explain why I got mad, and how we can both avoid it the next time. As far as starting school without meds, put yourself in the teacher's shoes. They have more than just your child to deal with, so when he pushes the teacher's buttons, it will be harder for them to give your son the attention he needs. If he does better on meds, then I believe it would be best if he started before school. With my son he was able to focus more at school and therefore learn more when taking his meds. He was singled out alot because of his behavior and didn't have many friends. He is much happier now and enjoys school and has more friends. He spends most of his day with the AEA7 teacher, but still goes to other classes (PE, music, recess, art, lunch, etc.) with the rest of his class. Don't feel like your are a bad mother because you give your child medication for him to fuction normally. He will be a much happier normal child with it. You will also be much happier too!
Catou, I just read your profile, I see that you are a teacher. So you can very easily understand what it would be like to deal with a child with ADHD, off his meds, on top of all the other stuff you deal with through the school day. I applaud you and all the other teachers out there, I wouldn't be able to do it.
Trust me you are not alone. I often feel I'm the worst mom in the world too. I usually take time to calm down after I 'loose it', then make sure I appologize and explain why I got mad, and how we can both avoid it the next time. [/QUOTE]
OMG. Yes, you are not alone. I just went thru a bad depressed period because Im so fed up feeling like Im the worst mom and that nothing I do helps my sons behavior. I hate getting those looks in public. Knowing that people are judging me based on my sons behavior. I feel aweful because now that I had another child I find myself connecting better with him. The little one is quite frankly just easier and more pleasant to be around. What kind of mother doesnt "like" their own child? So I vowed to do whatever I could for my oldest and we got him the neuropsych eval. Getting the adhd diagnosis was literally a godsend. Our oldest has been a challenge since day one and looking bad, its all adhd related.
I love my son and I will help him lead as successful of a life as possible. For once in his life I feel prepared and educated on how to parent him and thats a HUGE relief.