Messed up with In-Laws | ADHD Information

Well, I goofed again.  I am usually pretty good at keeping things on an even keel with my In-Laws but I think I messed up last night.  My husband's sister lives in our neighborhood and our daughters are close.  My niece stays overnight quite often in the summer and I usually run her back and fourth.  Yesterday my H took the girls swimming and my niece wound up hanging around here later.  When I was just getting comfortable my daughter asked if my niece could stay overnight.  I really didn't feel like having anyone over but agreed to it.  For me it would have been fine for my niece to just borrow some clothes from my daughter and I said to the kids that I didn't feel like going over my in-laws to pick stuff up last night.  When my niece called home she mentioned that Aunt D didn't want to come pick her stuff up, so my Brother-N-Law dropped it off.  I don't know what my problem was last night.  I should have just gone over and got the stuff but I let my mood show through.  I've got a busy week ahead, too many things going on and I'm not feeling real happy at the moment.  No excuse for showing it though.  Guess I should just apologize and eat crow today to keep peace.  Darn, why am I such an idiot sometimes?    Anyone else mess up like this sometimes and how did you fix it?   Thanks for any advice guys.  Dee I really don't see a problem Lostmyshoe. I actually think it is more proper for the BIL to bring his kids stuff over in the first place. But if it bothers you just call your BIL and say, thanks for bringing (insert your neices name) stuff over and if you really feel bad tell him you owe him one.  I honestly don't know how anyone could be mad, especially since you all live so close together. After all it was his daughter staying at your house. Thanks so much for your advice.  I think you both are right and I did thank my  B-N-L and I did mention I could have given my niece some of my daughters clothes for one night. Sometimes I so way overcompensate for my ADD that I am super hard on myself if I think I did something wrong, especially regarding my In-Laws.
If you mess up with In-Laws, especially ones in close proximity, it can make your life just a bit more difficult.   Thanks so much for your replies.  I am feeling much better.  I hope everyone has a great day.   Dee lostmyshoe38923.3602314815

I agree with Auntie. I wouldn't think anything of asking my brother or sil to bring their kid's stuff over. Your bil probably didn't either and if he is upset you can tell him you had stuff she could have used.

You don't have to be the one who does everything for everyone else. Its ok to say no sometimes, its even a good health move.

I'm agreeing with Auntie and Barb.  You didn't think about loaning your daughter's clothes for one night but he must not have either or he would have said something.  I live close to my in-laws too.  I'm the outlaw

I can't see how anyone should be offended by having to pitch in on a family event.  If your BIL doesn't seem upset why should you?  Once a family is built it's now a family not two separate entities!

They should be happy to have these kind of things go on.  Many families are separated by time and distance (mine is - hundreds of miles) so these things are special.

You are just obsessing over details.  We all do.  Let it go as much as you can.  When you truly goof up THEN you worry! LOL!!

Hi Losty ! I concur with what's been said ~