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    I know that when I was having a very hard time with my son i was offered respite care through Easter Seals. The cost was free and the people providing the respite were trained to care for children with all kinds of special needs. Hope it helps. good luck to youOh Jenn, my heart goes out to you.  I can't even imagine what your going through.  This I do know.  Don't ever think bad of yourself for having these feelings.  We KNOW you love your child.  We KNOW the frustration that you feel when you don't know what else to do.  Lots of hugs coming your way  I don't know what to tell you, but October is way to long to wait to see what's going on.  Can you see a different doctor and be seen sooner?  Is this the same doctor that is perscribing the meds?  Did this extreme behavior start after you started the meds or before.  It looks to me that the meds aren't working to well and you need to re-evaluate.  This kind of behavior seems beyond just ADHD.  I'm so sorry your going through this, I wish I had some better advice for you.  Just hang in there and just know that everyone is here to support you.It is hard what you are going through and it is  hard on families and relationships for the child takes up all your time and energy.  It sounds like you need more help and a break do you have any family to help you?  What does your psychologist or psychiatrist say about your son's behavior?  Maybe they can give you a behavior plan to work with.  I wish I can help you more but here at least is a hug.  Good luck Jill

Since your oldest has Aspergers are you positive he isn't on the Spectrum too? It's not a symptom of ADHD to pee in the house, and autism is very hereditary. You may want to have him tested further by a NeuroPsych. I would be leery of an ADHD dx. when the oldest has Aspergers. I will link you to the PDD/autism/Aspergers site that is like this and maybe they can help you more. I would bet he's on the Spectrum--the climbing the walls, screeching, screaming sounds like ASD, although he may present very differently from your oldest. Does he have any speech delays/problems? Social issues? Something is going on that is beyond ADHD. I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I would not trust a Pediatrician or regular psycologist with this. I would say he sounds bipolar, except for your older kid's ASD diagnosis. If you have one Spectrum kid, your other kids have a 1 in 20 chance of being on the Spectrum and this just doesn't ring true as ADHD. NeuroPsyschs can be found in univerisity and children's hospitals. They do extensive tests. (((Hugs)))

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MomWI38929.7464467593Welcome, Jen.  My heart goes out to you.  We have all been there, believe me.  You need a break.  Get a sitter and get out.  You also need to get him to the doctor ASAP because this behavior sounds pretty out there.  Get the respite care.  I'm not sure how to go about doing it, but it is there.  Maybe you need to get in to see a doc, also.  Make sure you are healthy and hormone levels are proper, etc.  And find a way to relieve the stress.  I find that taking long walks helps a little.  And maybe delegate a little bit to dh.  There is no rule that says moms have to do it all.    This summer I actually hired someone to clean my house.  I just couldn't deal with it--I felt like I was losing my mind.  .IMac38944.519224537

 

hi everyone.. its been a while since i  have been on.  My 7 year old has since been diagnosed with Aspergers.. and as i have told before my 4 year old ( will be 5 on friday ) has ADHD.

 

i am going insane.  he is still peeing every where.. my house now STINKS of urine.. i have a carpet cleaner but the poor thing is almost worn out now because of this.

 

he is tearing my family apart.

 

i love him dealy but it is getting unreal.

 

the urinating, late nights early mornings, the screaming the yelling the pushing the fighting.  he hits the baby, throws food, spits.  breaks things .

 

it is non stop.  my next dr apt is not untill october and i am worried we wont last that long. he is presently on metholphenedate  ( generic ritalin )

we are so mad at him . and while i love him, i actuly find times when i hate him.

hate him for his screaming, for me never getting sleep, for what he is doing to me and my husband. we cant talk to each other.. we can bearly get a good morning.. and this is not a exageration.

i dont like to say it, as he is my son and i love him, but i just want him to leave at times.. and these times are getting more and more often.

 

i cant let him play by himself or ina room by himself incase he breaks the TV or climbs a wall ( yes he does this ) if we let him go to the bathroom he floods it.. to a point where it came through my front room cealing.

 

i really dont know what to do.  i am actully going deaf from his screams and sheeks.. it is non stop.  why should i ,iss out what my other children have to say because i said he couldnt have chocolate milk.. not like we ever have it or even have it now.. but he wants it non the less.

 

please help.  i love him and hate myself for hating him.  but my family is being torn apart.

 

thanks

 

Jenn

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Thanks everyone... i wm going to try and see his specialist sooner..

 

my DH does as much as he can.. even doing it all allot of the time as i work from home... never seen a man like him :) i love him dearly.

I am going to speak to his play theripist this week about this .. see what she can suggest.  yes he has speach delays and lerning dissabilites. and his worker helps him with these through play.

the biggest problem is i live in canada and there are not many programs available for respite and the such.. even for Autistic children.  there are a few.. but not many. and the aiting list is long.

 

i wont harm him.. i love him dearly. but i am scared to what he is doing to my family.  he has been on meds for over a year now, and this behaviour is recent. i think he may have outgrown his dose... but even then.. when he goes up in does he islike a zombie.

we have thought of him being on the spectrum but again to young to diagnose :)  

 

thanks again

 

 

[QUOTE=IMac] [QUOTE=hanging_on]the biggest problem is i live in canada and there are not many programs available for respite and the such.. even for Autistic children.  there are a few.. but not many. and the aiting list is long.[/QUOTE]

Respite is not a program? I live in B.C. and the funding comes from whatever the current name is for the government department of Children and Families. Respite can mean a worker takes a child out in the community after school for a few hours or provides care overnight in their own homes so the special needs child and his family can have a break. I know foster parents who even use respite care funding.

Hangin_on, you pay taxes and are entitled to these resources.
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thanks i will look into it.. i just feel bad in sending him away.. he is my son and i should care for him . i feel like a failure that i am even looking at this as an option. ( not that people who do use it as a failure.. )

 

i am also scared as i have herd so many cases of CAS takeing the kids away when there is problems with one child... but i will look thanks.

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