Yes I do think the counceling helped. If nothing else, it gave me someone to talk to and work things out with.
As far as structure, I try my hardest to keep her structured during the day, but she is very hard headed and wants to do thing when she is darn good and ready. That makes things pretty hard sometimes.
I honestly dont know wether or not sheis jealous or not, she doesnt seem to be, and she says she loves him and is thankful he is here.
Thanks for the input.
hey all, just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Jennifer. My hubby and I, Shane, have only been married a few months. My daughter is almost 7, and although she has had symptoms for several years, the drs did not diagnois until this past Dec. Up until Shane came into our lives, I had pretty much raised her on my own. Her dad has not really spent much time in the picture.
Things in my house got really heated when she was about 4. That was when she was litterally climbing the walls as well as anything else she wanted to. She was breaking things, getting into things, and basically doing things without being able to give any answer as to why, except that she wanted to.
Since medicating (15mg adderall and 5mg abilify) things have been better, so much so, that she stopped counceling in mid June. Now it seems she is back to same old patterns. I keep telling myself it is just because she is out of school, and things will be better when she goes back. Unfortunately that doesn't help with the feeling that I want to litterally beat the crap out of her some days. I very rarely spank her. Partly because I know it doesn't do any good and partly becayse that is how I was raised, and I know better. She has recently been treating my hubby and I so badly, that I really don't want to spend any time with her. Just yesterday, I picked her up from daycare at noon, and when my hubby got home at 5:45, I was so stressed and upset that I literally bursted into tears.
We have just recently gone from state medical card to hubbys insurance, and his health care really is crappy in this area. The nearest phychiatrist is 20 miles away, and the same goes with councelors. Out of network coverage is laughable.
At this point I really don't know what we are going to do. I am trying to keep my sanity and some days am fighting tooth and nail for that. My hubby has never had children, and is totally clueless and helpless to deal with this. I don't want this to tear my family apart, and am doing the best I can to see that doesn't happen.
Thanks for listening
I am curious, do you think the counseling helped? How are you with keeping things structured for her? Could she be jelous (sp) of your husband?