Newbie here Parent of 2 ADHD Kids | ADHD Information

My son gets kinda like that.  We call it being too worried about everyone else.  he was doing that at school, and hopefully it will be better this year.  I am anxious to find  out who his teacher will be.

We have tried the Marble System with both of them. It worked for about a month. After that they quit doing the work and earning the rewards. I have done Charts and anything else you can think of. Amber is pretty good at school. It is at home and with her brother that we have the problems.

Oh you do have your hands full...I agree with the above poster and the marble system...your kids are the perfect age for such a system.

Jennifer, hope all is going well with you. Keep in mind that it is believed that ADHD is highly hereditary. It is very common that once a child is diagnose with ADHD that the parent is also diagnosed with ADHD. Because ADHD was not looked at as much when we were children ( especially girls), many parents had it lived with it, struggled with it,  couped with it,  and compensated for it.  So the question is: if we were able to be a kid with adhd and be successful why can't they??  They probably could, but now its is being identified much more ( some argue overdiagnosed). I can speak to this as I was not diagnosed until I was 35.  I was successful in school, did well in college, played division 2 sports, have a successful career and family.  But... looking back I always had to work much harder than my friends to achieve the same result, my adhd caused me to have to work much harder.  So If I would have been diagnosed earlier who knows what could have been? But having my ADHD treated as an adult sure has improved my day to day living.  Many ADHD patients also have co existing conditions such as depression that sometimes even can be misdiagnosed when ADHD is the main culprit.  Something to keep in mind!  Good Luck, I have 2 girls, and its looking like I may have passed the ADHD gene on to my youngest but she is only 3 so its still to early to tell for sure. fifeldmouse-  at home is where we have the most trouble also.  My son gets very treeitorial about his things and his sister just antagonizes him.  I've now started the marble system for her too(on a smaller scale.)  He has always been the center of attention, and after 4 years, still can't get over the fact that he now has to "share" the spotlight.  I find it hard because of the age difference to get them to do things-I can't set up a game for the two of them-one is too hard for her, the other too easy for him...so I have a hard time being home all day w/them-they are constantly trying to "split me".  I have found that with the marbles and chart, I change things up a little every week.  That way he has something new to look forward to and it doesn't get boring for him.  fifeldemouse-  Hello!  I am going through the same river you are.  Married 8 years (been w/ him for 15) haveing bouts of depression, have an 8 year old boy ADHD/ODD and a 4 year old girl-no dx yet, but the therapist we see has made the comment she is adhd also.  If you want to talk, feel free to pm me.  My son is going through the same OUT OF THE BLUE period as your daughter.  If you get a chance, look up ogram's marble system within the boards.  I've been finding it helpful with the keeping hands to ourselves issues. Kim

Hello there - I am new here too.  I feel for you.  I stay home all day with two kids myself.  My daughter is four and my son is eight months.  Its my girl, Ashleigh, that I think may be ADHD.  My son is fine - so far.  Its funny to have another baby around, I can see now that Ashleigh was "different" from the beginning. 

Right now, I am typing one handed while holding the baby and Ashleigh is already runnung around the house singing:)  She has been awake for about 15 minutes:)  I dont know how she does it:) 

I feel down in the dumps myself.  I told my husband I thought I was depressed but I dont think he took me seriously:( 

Well, I will go now, I hope things go well for you today.  I know how nice it is to have a good day:)  If you ever want to talk, feel free to contact me. 

 

Thank you for the reply. My son so far today is behaving. As for Amber, well that is another story. She woke up at 12pm. And the first thing she did was start yelling at the top of her lungs at her brother to pick up his dirty clothes that he had left on the floor. I told her to not worry about it and come take her meds. She then proceeded to yell at me and tell me that she would take them after she ate her breakfast. I said no and to come and get them now. So finally she got her meds in her. And she got the donuts and thought she was going to eat them in my living room which is not allowed. Her brother  said "mommy, she has the donuts in the living room."  And the next thing I know she is screaming " TATTLE TALE!!!!!!!"  as loud as she can. So now it is 12:46pm my head hurts and she is still acting like his mother and I'm wishing she was still in bed.

And my day will continue on like this until they go to bed tonight.

 My daughter has been diagnosed since she was 3. So we have had our hands full for many yrs. But here for the last yr she has been exhibiting more hatred toward her brother. She will out of the blue knock him out for no reason at all. When we ask her why she did it she just says "Because he was in my way or I had to." And if we tell her that she can't have something then she will burst into tears. Her therapist thinks that she might need to be put on some anti-depressants.

  Hello all, I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Jennifer. I have been married for 12 yrs to my husband Rodney. I am a stay at home mom and I have DEPRESSION. We have 2 kids. Amber 8 yrs old with ADHD.She is going into the 3rd grade this yr. Charles 6.5 yrs old with ADHD and ODD. He is going into the 1st grade this yr.  fifeldemouse38932.2966666667Hello and welcome to the board.  You certainly have your hands full with 2 ADHD kids.  I hope you are taking care of yourself.  I suffer from bouts of depression also.  I probably should see a doctor about it.  I have a daughter going into 2nd grade with ADHD.  School starts in about 2 weeks and I'm already getting a tad anxious.  She has struggled in school(at least in 1st grade she did--unmedicated for the first part).  I'm having high hopes that the Ritalin LA is going to make school easier for her.  My other daughter is going into 1st grade and she doesn't have any issues, thank goodness.  Again, welcome aboard!Welcome and good luck!