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For moms with teens and tweens.  When your child is being picked on and is embarrassed, how much do you get involved????  Can it backfire on the child if the bullying child is reported?  Any advice please!!!!

That is ALWAYS a tough one. Fortunately, both my school district and the camp he goes to tries to stop bullying.

It depends on what type of bullying. There are some things your child can do that might help.

1) Ignore and/or walk away

2) smile, slap the knee and say 'wow, good one - I wish I'd thought of that' and walk away. (try to make it sound really sarcastic)

3) Say with as much disdain in your voice as possible 'oh, grow up'

4) give it right back to them

If this doesn't stop the teasing, then probably a talk with the principal or camp director is in order. I find a lot of times that when the kid complains about another kid, it's 'tattling'. When an adult calls up the principal and says 'so and so has been bullying my kid. It needs to stop. ' it is usually more effective.

Another idea could be to actually start documenting the incidences and mail a letter to the principal, keeping one on file for yourself. That way, the bullying and teasing is documented. Columbine, although a terrible, terrible tragedy did make adults much more aware of bullying and what it does.

Good luck - it's a tough one to stop once it starts.

 

My daughter was being bullied at the bus stop last year. Shes was 11, in the 5th grade. We had her try everything you mentioned and then some. When it became apparent that it wasn't working & I could tell she was ready for some more hands on help, my husband and I went to the principal. Oh we also took my daughter & a friend who had witnessed it & the crossing guard, who had also witnessed it. The principal & the school guidance counsellor talked to the girls & their parents. They had been bullying other kids as well & were on the verge of being suspended.The bullying stopped. My daughter did not act afraid of them after that. She held her head up high. One of the girls even became a bit of a friend by the end of the year. If it's physical, then pull your kid from the school ASAP! I had an experience
where a girl would physically beat me up and she broke out my two front
teeth, and its not worth the emotional pain!Gosh, i'm not there yet.  please figure this one out and iron all the kinks in advance for me!!!  I worry about that too.  right now my ds is the one that is kind of in the middle right now.  i hope it stays that way, but i'm sure he won't.candyhound that was awful.  I was picked on as a child and teen and it is  hard and my girl just wants to be included and please.  I tried her in tak wan doe so she can learn to handle herself  however she quit and refused to go back.