Trip to stores | ADHD Information
Does anybody on this forum ever have trouble with their kids in the stores. My son is 8. You would think by 8 he cou;ld behave in th e store. He talks loudly in the stores, runs up and down the isles, interups my boyfriend and me when we are talking about the food to buy and what we are going to make. He touches everything in the stores. I look forward to when he is with his dad on the weekends so i don't have to go through the stress in the store. Any suggestions what to do. Come on he is 8 when will i be able to shop with him when he is 21. HA HAI try to do my shopping without my son as much as possible. I do it while he's at school or while my husband can be at home with him. I hate shopping to begin with (I have my own sensory issues). Couple that with a kid and it's difficult. Couple that with an ADHD kid who has to touch everything, constantly wiggles and moves and it is a nightmare. If I do have to bring him with me I minimize the number of items I'm shopping for and try to enlist his help ( okay, let's see if we can find the milk etc.)
Our son thru fits a soon as you entered the stores even when he said nothing. I guess over stimulation. My mom would buy me a candy bar if i was good while we were at the store
so it worked until i was old enough that 60 cents wasn't much to me.
we have several" solutions" that we try we get him a little toy or magazine at the start and he only gets it if he behaves.
we get him involved as much as we can,we let him get the milk,chose the fruits ect..
my personnal favorite.i do my shopping when he is at nursery.
I just told my daughter, 6, that I couldn't wait for school to start so that I could shop in peace! She doesn't throw fits anymore, she just has to run and touch everything. This was at Super Wal-Mart. The other day we were in a clothing store and she was running in and out of clothes racks and when I told her to stand by me and be still, she would whine to leave. Finally I mentioned that they had a section for her size and she went off (she was within sight) to search for clothes her size. Everytime she found something she would bring it and show me. However, I did end up spending more money that I planned.Our kids go to toys while I put the foods in the cart. Dad goes to sporting goods. Walmart super center. only 1 of 2 stores we have to shop. I tried everything with my daughter, and finally quit taking her to the store. She quit wanting to go anywhere with me because it causes too much friction between us. When she started concerta, she actually wanted to go to the store and was helpful. I was suprised and do not know if it was the med or just a wierd fluke.
She is on a med break to gain weight, so when she goes back on concerta I will try the store again.I'm in the same situration my oldest son has adhd and my other two children my daughter she runs up and down the isle and touches everything and my youngest throws a fit as soon as we get into the store and screams threw out the store and my oldest son does the same thing my daughter does until he sees something he wants but he knows that he can't get it's over 10 dollars unless he has enough in his piggy bank and they are also loud. I would go to the store when my kids were in school or on Saturdays when my husband is off . But Since We don't have a car I have to wait until my mother has a day off to be able to go to the store and she brings my brother along so that he can watch the kids my other two have not been diagnosed yet for adhd, but my daughter has a doctors appointment Monday....I'm not ready to get my youngest diagnosed because he's 4 Yes, my son does this and he is 7. I used to shop without him, but I am determined that he will learn to behave properly in a store. I have tried making him keep one hand on the cart. I'm going to try the candy thing. It's bribery, but I've tried everything else.Although my daughter has only been dx for about 6 months, she has had symptoms since, well, as long as I can remember. Until just before she was dx, I was a single mom, so there was no going anywhere alone. As a rule of thumb in our house, whenever we go to any store, she must be in the cart. I know that at 6, she is a bit old, but I have found that I can then get what I need to done quickly before the fits start most of the time.
Hope this helps, at least you know you are not alone!