Neighbor’s Daughter | ADHD Information

Do you have a video camera to catch this activity on tape (without sound of course)? If proof is shown to the parent(s), they may address the issues as to avoid involvement of the authorities. Just a thought. It's camcorder time. If you have to, make a deal out of the family leaving or drive away in the car, and then sneak back in. Make a tape and give a copy to the mother. Tell you know that she isn't aware of what's going on or she would have stopped it by now, and that you want her to see for herself instead of trying to describe it.  I would also call the police and ask them to talk to the girl and the parents, just the shake things up. The parents are legally responsible for the girl's behavior and they need to be reminded of this.Hi all.  Help!  Need advice here.  Our backyard fence is adjacent to the yard of an apartment complex.  There is a 10 year-old girl there who regularly verbally assaults my sons in particular my 10 year old autistic boy.  If she sees the boys playing in the yard, she walk to the second floor landing that faces my yard and will call my oldest son by name and then call him a "f**ken boy," "sucker," or "loser."  I've heard her and when I try to see her, of course, she will run off.  When she is with a group of girls she hangs around with in their complex, they too will call my sons names.  It's absolutely awful and my kids can't play in peace in their own back yard.  One day, months ago, somebody (didn't take long for us to figure out) threw wall tiles at my glass deck table.  There was a crashing sound that startled us.  Good thing is the table didn't shatter and my boys were no where near and no one got hurt.  My husband confronted this girl's father and stated he didn't know his daughter was causing any sort of problems...no big secret considering the girl and siblings are unsupervised on a regular basis.  Last week, my kids came screaming telling me this girl was throwing wine bottles at our fence wherein chards of glass were cutting through the fence and landing onto our plants and the boys' play area.  The final straw was this weekend, upon our return from an outing, we found garbage thrown over our fence and dumped onto our deck.  All of these incidents happen at the same place, the point that this girl is always at when she's harrasing the boys.  I didn't see her dump the garbage or throw the tiles but I did see her breaking the wine bottles.  When she sees me, she laughs heartily and runs off.  I don't see any manager on site and I don't know who to address.  If I contact the property owner, what can the consequences be?  She's 10 years old.  I don't want to take her to court to get a restraining order but at the same time, I don't know how much more this will escalate.  I know I probably sound spineless but something has to be done.  Any suggestions would be appreciated.Call the police.  These actions could have dangerous consequences.

[QUOTE=crazymama]Call the police.  These actions could have dangerous consequences.[/QUOTE]

If you have talked to the parents in the past with no positive results, then I agree with crazymama. Its time to call the police. They will most likely talk to the girl and her parents and explain the consequences to them if it doesn't stop.

If she continues to do it, call the police each time. If you can find out who the building owner or manager is, then call him each time also. He just may ask them to move if they can't control their daughter.

That may make you feel mean but your children have a right to play safely and un-harassed in their own yard.

If the girl has a disorder such as ODD, she needs more supervision than she is getting and if she is just a spoiled or unsupervised brat, she needs supervision and discipline now or those parents are going to have a very hard time with her when she is older. You will actually be doing them a favour and helping the girl by taking action yourself. Someone has to put their foot down. It sounds like it is going to have to be you and your hubby.

I agree with the two above posts.  If the parents have done nothing in the past when you have talked to them, I would call the police.  As barb mentioned, the parents are really doing the child no favor by leaving her unsupervised, and allowing her to act in this manner.  I would hate to see how this child is going to act in a few years!