I have another issue!! Basically my boyfriend said I am too obsessive about when I see him. He enjoys his own space and I think I suffocate him. I don't mean to but he is the only person I can spend loads of time with and not get bored or get distracted! Thats the ADD side to me!!!
Maybe I need to understand his needs. We don't live together and he is 22 and I am 20. Are we too young to see each other all the time? Don't get me wrong I go out with my friends a lot.
I do try to control the relationship. I say things like, "you saw your mates Tuesday, so why are you seeing them Thursday?" He is like, "It's my life!"
Honestly he is so lovely, and good to me. When he feels trapped he becomes really angry all the time. I need to give him space but how do I let go?? is it my ADD causing this obsessive, time watching thinking? x
I have those tendencies as well, but I've learned that sometimes when I am starting to feel needy and feel bitchy and selfish, I just tske deep breaths and try to tell myself to chill. I'm married now(second time around), but I dsitinctly remember doign exactly what you are doing in my high school/college years. Either i had the lame boyfriend who I spent 24/7 with until, a year or so later I would lose complete interest & dump him immediately, or I had the boyfriend who actually had friends outside of me and those always kept my interest for longer. Always some emotional struggle. Now I just grit & bear it, and while its hard to keep some fo those feelings in, I later feel even better for thinking first before acting, and i know I'm making headway! Good luck, and have fun!I think some times when we become jealous we are struggling with insecurity. That doesn't make us bad people but it can ruin good relationships. To learn how to be secure and happy within self is the only permeate fix for this but some other ideas that may help in the mean time: