just need to vent " so tired today"
I read it and bought his CD's. I am not saying that your son is a "difficult
child". I bring this book up because it gives you a discipline method that is
for kids with more intense personalities. The author doesn't like to "label"
kids. He says that regular discipline methods that work for average children,
do nothing for more intense kids. They basically have more intensity than
normal and don't know what to do with it. They are not bad kids, they just
need a different approach to discipline. I use it with my kids (ds 6 yr old
ADHD, dd 3 1/2 no issues for now). I was so stressed out and tired of
yelling all the time. It does work. You need support to get through this.
Look into a local support group perhaps. Moms are on the front lines
typically - dealing with schools, daycare, etc. It's hard, but you are not
alone.
okay so my son is 4 and we are currently going through a phciatrist for the adhs with kaiser in ca. so far they have seen him two times,and basically they said yes he has it .my discussion today is this -my son goes to a private daycare with other kids his age ,he has been bit and been told he is to active and sometimes hard to controll-she is a friend of mine and is really great with kids and is willing to take him on even with the adhd,however if he is to rough with someof the other boys his age or throws a tantrum fit the other boys goes home and tell there parenst they dont want to play with my son cause he either pushes them or hits them and say he is to rough ,my sons father says well mayber those other kids are just babies at 4 and devon has alot of energy to burn ,my friend has exsplained that to the other parents and just doesnt want other problems with any of her other parents ,,,so in thre mean time i contantly get calls saying devon is playing to rough or just wont listen....how can i deal with this ,and also my husband doesnt feel he has the adhd and this is normal 4 year old behavior!! he get s so madd saysing the other kids are just woosis... or cry babies..i feel alone and so stuck in the middle with this situation its hard for me to hear these things about my son devon,i only want the best for him and i am trying to help him ,his father will participate but does habe a 13 uyr old from a previous marriage and he said this is exactly the way his son acted at 4 -also his other son was a premie too and was adhd also but never was treated for it back in the early 90"s they did home schooling with him,as i cannot we both need to have a two income working home..whicj is so frustrating ...i just dont know what else to do or say to the other parents when im told this stuff about how devon acts,my husband says screw them and just focus on devon who cares what they say ,we need to just be more consistant with our disapline and devon will be fine. i am goinfg to use the alternative to medicine to help calm him down,,so well see how that turns out.
so am i doing the right thing,,,anyone please reply and help im at wits end today and so tired and stressed out .....
YES THEY DO AND WE USE THE SAME AT HOME"
I'd say that the way he is acting could be significant to his self esteem -- we also have a 4 year old with ADHD and are treating with alternative medicine -- specifically supplements. In addition, routine and consistency are key. I'd have to disagree with your husband -- peer relationships begin to become somewhat important at this age. Good luck on using the alternatives -- there's a good section on this board if you need some more info. Hang in there and welcome to the board.
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