kill me talk | ADHD Information

Do any of your kids (especially tweens and teens) say things like "kill me" when they make mistakes or get in trouble?  My sons always does that.  He totally doesn't mean it and uses it to get attention but he'll say things (in a hyper way) like "you should just kill me" or "I hate my life", etc. always in reaction to him making a mistake, or getting in trouble for something he did wrong.  It's certainly not depression, it's more for getting a reaction.  I'm not sure how to stop it.  He did it at school once when he was in trouble for something and they called me in cause they weren't sure what to do.  I've tried to explain to him that people take those words seriously, but for him, the remarks are so impulsive.Ds messed up at school early last year and said "I could kill myself!"  He meant it in the same way you say "I did something stupid."  We got phone calls and a written report etc.  He's learned not to say that now.  

Wow, a written report.  That would probably scare my son.  Or the police showing up would too.

I guess they need to get in the habit of using different words to express their emotion.  Sometimes when my sons says it and is very upset I make a joke and say things like ok, well should we get a knife or jump off the roof, or even let's eat dinner first.  That usually makes him laugh and calms him down.

oh my....  not in that form.. but my child was overly entertianed with guns and shooting.  He does not realize that those things can be real, and are not funny.  We have cut out all gun play (even with fingers) including cartoons that have shooting in any form.  But,  he had caught on to what i was doing and would use his leggos to create a make shift gun.  Which he says is an airplane when I noticed it!!  He can be tricky!  Its not as bad as it used to be....  And i got to the point that (maybe) if i did not make such a big deal out of it that it would not seem soo interesting to him...  and ... so far so good. When my 7 yr. old son is mad at me for something says "I'm going to kill you" he also says it to his 4 yr. brother and to our pet's. He has said a few times that he was going to kill himself (that was extremely hard for me to say) He has never acted on his words nor said how he would do it. It makes me so sad to hear him say those things but on the other hand its as though he doesn't know what he is saying. Also he is constantly saying "I'm gonna shoot you" to passing cars on the road,when he sees something on t.v. that makes him mad,or just when he feels like saying it. Of coarse I only let him watch non violent shows and play non violent ps2 games. and there are absolutly NO guns in my home. If anyone was wondering.
I used to say: "Well shoot me then" ; "Oh, shoot me" .. as in "bite me" lol I have the same problem before the doctors uped my sons dose he does say that in play and I tell him would you want that to really happen because if it happened then your sister, brother and mommy would not be here and he's calmed down with saying that alot he never says it to daddy though but now when he says it I tell him I don't like those words because it hurts people....and when the kids call each other names they come running to me saying one of our other children say they called them stupid I ask them are you stupid and they so no and I tell them then your not you are very smart and I go talk to our two other children and tell them that when you call someone that it hurts their feelings how would you feel if someone says that to you and they say sad and I tell them then think what your brother or sister feel like when you say that to them? and then they say sorry and give the other one a hug

my son has expressed his anger twords others in the past by saying he would kill so and so if they ever hurt him.  Before meds he used to say he was stupid and didn't have a brain and stated I don't want to live anymore.  He does not say that anymore (8yrs old)

Sometimes I think he just experiences things so intensely those words just reflect his raw emotions.  Not fully understanding death.

Sometimes the "KIll me" statements are a reflection of low self esteem.  I know I've said that before or I wish I was dead but not really meaning it.  Just feeling horrible about a mistake I've made.

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