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My son has adhd i know it, but god its hard work just getting a specalist to say yes he has,ADHD,for a year now i have been waiting,the last time we saw him he said yes he has the signs but he has low iron,iron tablets see u in 4mths,it took 4mths to get that appointment,while hes messing around my son is driving me mad,hes not getting the help he needs but its the uk so just put up with it i suppose,i dont mind people looking at me in the street with this young frustrated,violent,abusive,loveable rouge because hes my son,but gosh it would be nice to take him places without the outbursts even just simple shopping,anyway i've have had a moan and feel better now,his next appointment is sept so fingers crossed xxxxxxxxx and toesxxxxxxx and every other bit of me I know how you feel! If i had a nickle for every receptionist, cashier, nurse or person that has said to me.. "we are trying to hurry for you" because my nephew is screaming like a chick in a horror flick
I would be loaded It was hard at first to get my nephew's peditrician to understand how my nephew was at home (but never in the Dr's office ) of course until he started school and the teacher seen the behavior too. He's been on adderal and seems to be helping a bit, but hes very emotional somedays. We'll see how that goes. Good luck to you, hope all goes well in the near future. sandra1008 wrote:I dont mind people looking at me in the street with this young frustrated,violent,abusive,loveable rouge
Welcome Sandra. Many here can surely relate to your pain and frustration so please know that you are not alone. If your child is violent and abusive you may be looking at something other than ADHD or something beyond ADHD. Children with ADHD do throw serious temper tantrums in public due to frustration but they are not violent and abusive. Many other disorders and also medical conditions can mimic some of the symptoms of ADHD. You mention that your having your child seen by a specialist. What type of specialist is evaluating your son? If medical reasons have been rulled out by a pediatrician, it is then crucial that you have your child tested by a clincian trained in the field of diagnosing and treating childhood disorders in order to get a definitive diagnosis and you shouldn't have to wait another 4 months to continue the evaluation process. The evaluation process should be on going until a definitive diagnosis is made.
yes i can relate ,my son is 4 with adhd/odd and the screaming in public and abusive violent tantrums he throws ....im so used to now ...its the other peoples problem if they want to stare. Im so sick of other people saying parenst of adhd children are badd parents but little do they know its not our fault....we do what we can for our children to advocate for them ,,we are there only voice.....geeezz can we all get a breaK!!!LOL.LOL... ive come to the realization that my son is who he is ,so we love him regardless the way he is ...i just love him ..period!
so yes its very hard day to day wondering when and where he will have an outburst..but for now i just enjoy the day with him and we go about normal family day to day things ...and i do alot of praying
take care all an d have a great week! 
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anyway just recived a letter today from peditriton and guess what yet another NHS appointment cancelled,was surposed to go 3rd sept now its 25th,
Pediatricians don't have the knowledge and expertize to diagnos adhd or any other childhood disorder and for whatever reason your child is acting out, if you want a definitive diagnosis so they you can start addressing and treating the problem I recommend you ask your pediatrician for a referral to a neuro/psychologist or a board certified pyschiatrist. If your son is approaching age 13 he is also going through hormonal changes and combined with a childhood disorder, the consequences of no treatment or ineffective treatment can be very severe down the road. The fact that your son has been excluded from mainstream and is getting stares in public is having a severe impact on his self esteem and the impact is far more severe on a 13 year old as opposed to a 4 or 5 year old. Best of luck and I hope your able to get a definitive diagnosis sooner rather than later. Hugs to you
Feed him and give him some money!
I know when I'm hungry, I can be a total b!tch. Try to get him to eat something with a little protein in it, not just pure carbs. If it is just carbs, he'll crash later and be oh so pleasant to deal with.
Yes, you're definitely not alone.
My five-year-old son's behavior in stores has overall improved greatly, except for a recent incident at Target. For some reason, it's always Target. He can even take Walmart better! Maybe it's the food counter with the strong smells in Target or the noises and overall stimulation. I avoid taking him to the store as much as possible. Or I will take him to the dollar store or the pet store (to pet puppies) for a treat. He never acts up in those places.
I haven't quite gotten used to the stares. And the well-meaning people who try to talk to him and reason with him.
Good luck to you.
And momsanders -- try lying to the school and say that he's on meds even if he isn't! Whatever works!
thanx for your kind words everyone my son is nearly 13yrs old,nice to c its not just me that gets stared at while out,shell we have a national stare at me shopping day lol
ill tuck my knickers in my skirt thatll give them all something to look at 4 a change
anyway just recived a letter today from peditriton and guess what yet another NHS appointment cancelled,was surposed to go 3rd sept now its 25th,ARGHHHHHHHHH,corrys already been excluded for mainstream school and goes to a pupil referal unit from what i can gather its where kids get sent when teachers carnt cope never mind the kids carnt cope hey,so thats another day at home lots of fun fun fun for me i have not tried any remadies yet as dont want to start pumping him full of stuff til i know for sure sorry let me refrase that til im actually told yes your son has adhd and he is not just a spoilt little brat which is what he acts like
May I share what I've learned in 4 months with you? When you finally get dx. then you get to go thru different meds. as you find what will work. Some of these meds. cause the anger to get worse and the meds. have side effects that sometimes aren't worth it. My 17 year old has the same problems that your son has both on and off meds. People will stare at us and think that if I just tore his backside up one good time he would stop doing what he does. But I know that is not the solution because at 6ft. 2 and 184 pds. I don't think I would have any effect if I brought out the belt.Punishment to him is part of eveyday life for him and he thinks that if he managed to make it without any then he must be sick or something.Know how the dr. appts. go to we can only see the pysch. once a month here so if the meds don't work then he has to wait for the next appt.The other thing is the school he attends wil tolerate his bad behavior if I tell them he is on meds. but the moment I tell them he is off they come unglued and tell me to put him back on.
Good luck and maybe the dr. will hit it right the first time and things will get better.I will pray that they will.
you didnt mention how old he is but have you tried any calming remedies..I have used camomile ( I'm sure I spelled it wrong) tea to calm the son down...also caffeine seems to work for some kids. Believe me I know your frustration I have a 16 year old with ADD and he is impossible to live with when he is not on his medication...Good luck my friend.... Here's a hug if you need it..