jude is also 4.he also had problems ,we started with one child at a time for about 30mns then add up time,always at my house and supervised like a hawk,first sign of trouble,he was pulled away.he also started to get better after starting nursery.he is also supervised there.
he can only play with one at the time for a short period but we persevere,we also join in the play at times,make sure he is not tired and that the other child is quieter.if he gets too hyper,it is time for a snack break.
lol. when i got hyper i neve rgot a snack break. i got put in the corner. I wantproblems interacting with other kids younger or same age? Ours lasts about 15 minutes, tops.
Advice needed. He just turned 4.
My son tends to make friends really easily. Then these friends get to know him a little better and begin to avoid him. He is so desperate for friends that my heart hurts for him. It's a good thing his little sister is so popular and protective of him. She doesn't allow others to make fun of him.Annor, children with social issues should be evaluated by a neuropsychologist for high-functioning autism.My daughter has problems with social situations if there is more than 1 dominant personality - its like a power struggle. She has this one friend that I say they have a love/hate relationship. They are so much alike - they either love or hate each other. She is better with smaller groups...the bigger the group the harder it is for her to intermingle. Social Queues I think are more difficult for her to pick up on - like what is appropriate and where - I call it diahhrea mouth...My son can make friends with a wall, but like some of the above, once the kids get to know him, they pull away from him or not choose him to be on their teams. He loves people and wants to be everyones friend, but his impulsiveness gets in the way. Last year, he started going to a "friendship group" with the family youth services in our town and one at school and let me tell you it has helped him so much! It still breaks my heart. Just yesterday he said he didn't want to go back to school because it is the same every year, the kids like me in the beginning and then they don't! I wanted to cry, but I told him this year he is on meds and has learned so much from group that I am sure it will be different! I hope it is.
With that said, you might want to try and find a group like this for your son/daughter.
Mars
[QUOTE=SmallMom]Annor, children with social issues should be evaluated by a neuropsychologist for high-functioning autism.[/QUOTE]
Not true at all. ADd and ADHD have exactly these issues.
my daughter is terrible for interrupting... mostly because if she doesn't say what she's thinking at that very moment... she just looses the thought... it gets lost in that head of hers; however, i did find a neat trick to try and help...I tell her that when I am having a conversation with someone or on the phone and she really really needs to say something, that she can write it down...then when i am done, she has it written down so she can remember her thought.
She is also has an innate need to 'pre-plan' for example, she started talking about the exhibition 3-4 months before it came ... wanting to know if i would have the money or if she would be allowed to go... i had to listen to her go on about it for 3 months or more... frustrating. I do well to know what I am doing next week!
lol. i see both of your sides on that one!exhausted ~ It's funny you say that about 3-4 months in advance because