I am new here. I have 3 kids: a daughter, 7, and two boys, 5 1/2 and 3 1/2. My older boy has SPD (sensory processing disorder), and my younger boy...well, he's why I'm writing. He shows signs of SPD, but in some of the little "blurbs" I've come across in the paper lately about ADHD, he seems to show symptoms of that, too. For at least a year and a half, he has been very hyper--much moreso than his siblings (although with P.J., th 5 yr old, he was delayed in many areas, including gross- and fine-motor). He is *always* on the go, running around, climbing on furniture, likes to roughhouse--even when his brother and sister have had enough, he is sometimes rough when petting the dogs, he is destructive, having broken most of the mini-blinds in the house, disruptive when grown-ups want to have a conversation--either trying to get his say in, or hanging on me, has been "kicked out" of children's church for hitting, yells,screams, throws things when upset , oh I could go on and on--I have a list somewhere of his behaviors. Anyway, my dh has mentioned on numerous occasions that he (DH) was also a very hyper kid, and he didn't know how his single mom handled him. We are both stressed out by our youngest, and sometimes by our SPD boy, too, although I am the stay at home parent, and dh doesn't spend nearly as much time with the kids as I do. There's yellling going on in the house daily (I can't stand it, and dh and I do a lot of it, sorry to say). This can't be normal. DH thinks I'm "in a hurry to diagnose something" in our 3 yr old, since I'm in some chat groups for SPD, and he believes that our youngest is just a typical, hyper boy that just needs regular outlets for physical play. I am willing to concede that I am overreacting, but I truly don't believe that this is "typical" behavior. No one else's kids get kicked out of children's church. When I went to the gym, I was the mom who had to quit her workout early to get her kids out of childcare because of behavior. Because of that, I quit going and put back on the 35 lbs. I lost. I shouldn't have to say my kid's name in frustration half a dozen times in the first half hour after waking up.
Any suggestions, insights would be appreciated!
I meant is it ADHD? Bleah--I can't even type this morning!
Michelle
he could be just hyper,trying to get more attention or have ADHD.he is too young to know for sure.
have a sit down with your hubby and explain that you need him to help with the kids more,my hubby takes the kids away for one day .he could take them away and do fun things with them one saturday and the next he can go to do whatever he wants(my hubby goes fishing).you also need to make time for the two of you.it is very important.
once you are more relaxed you will be more prepared to deal with the kids and if you mellow more,so will they(personnal experience).
how does your 3 year old sleep at night?
get him to do a lot of activities.swimming,going to the park,go on his bike ect...,a trampoline,climbing frame,swing,monkey bars ect..in the garden are great.
one more thing,if your hubby says that his single mum managed with him,remind him that you are not a single mum.