Hi, I'm new here. I found you all after researching groups that involve helpful, informative ways to deal with my 16 year old son who has ADHD.

He was diagnosed at 8 and for a time, he took the ritalin, moved on to Adderall and then, concerta. He's also learning disabled, though fully functioning. Never had any trouble in school with behavioral issues ect. He was just a great kid, easygoing, if not costantly moving and hard to keep up with. he had a wonderful love of life and we used to really get along.

As he grew, I noticed he was able to keep better track of his life via constant repetitive scheduling and sticky notes all over the place. I took him off the meds and he did well.

However, just recently we've had a huge event in our lives that's changed not only our family, but my son. I'd prefer not to delve into the event. let's just say, it was traumatic and we're all in counseling now. I learned things about him that I didn't think he was even informed of, though I certainly tried to keep him informed at an age appropriate level.

Nontheless, his impulse control played into where we are now. I'm reaching out because I find him incredibly opinionated, rude and, constantly chattering and very difficult to manage. Clearly, he's troubled by what's happened, but nothing I say or do is right at this point. I'll give him that he's 16 and hormonal, but I can't allow him to be as confrontational as he's been any longer. There is no peace in my household. I often liken him (privately, of course) to trying to hang onto a greased cat. It's literally impossible. He's scattered and when called to task for it, he shrugs me off and ignores me when I ask him to finish what he began. Whether it's a meal he's making, cleaning his room, or whatever, it's mostly left undone.

He'll go to see the doctor next week and we're looking to possibly see if meds will help again. However, I'm wondering if parents of children with ADHD have any helpful tips -- anything that will help me keep him focused, less likely to jump down my throat and overall, leave us with some peace so that we can enjoy a more healthy relationship.

Thanks for you time,