mom of 3 boys hello to all | ADHD Information

 i havent really done this before but i looked up a few things on the internet and i read yalls questions and answers which some is very good advice. theres not to many people i can talk to about my situation so i hope maybe yall would not mind tryin to help me out. im not a quitter ive always tried to find a way to solve things but this one i believe is stumping me so please help if u can heres my situation: I have 3 boys a 16 13 and 11 years old my 11 year old has adhd odd he will be 12 in 2 months he did take ritalin twice a day it was not workin he is going thru puberty but i know he doesnt understand yes we have had talks and he takes showers alot during the day my son is in 6th grade but has a end of 1st beginning 2nd grade level he could be the sweetest boy hugs and saids i love you all the time when he does something hes not suppose to do it doesnt bother him whatever the outcome would be. when things dont go his way he gets angry and mean he goes to therapy i dont see any change hes been thru phsycologist and psychiatrist all he wants to go is to play their games. he hits and throws things puts holes in the wall and i try to hold him down he fights me all the way thru i just dont want him to hurt himself he saids things like i hate you he is now taking concerta and he still gets angry but like always after we talk and he settles down hes like saying i love you and hugs but my thing is i really dont think he understands what hes even goin through i am a understanding patient mom but i need help how to help my son understand what hes doin to everyone i have tried so many different things
also just to let you know i dont have the same issues with my other 2 boys and they do try to help their little brother. i could go on and on but if anybody has any ideas i would greatly appreciate it. I am unsure from your post, has he been evaluated by a child psychiatrist?Bump so others can help.