All good thoughts - thanks - i will meet teacher and admin this weel. I happen to be on the schools board as well and the school is in an upheaval right now so I know I cannot meet them until thurs so I guess I am jumping the gun. He struggled a bit at the end of last school year with some of his relationships so I was hoping this was a good oppurtunity to work on those. I was also thinking it would give us incentive to work on his overnight diapers (he works better on things when he has a goal that is important to HIM) Oh well - I guess we will wait and see, the conversations about it so far (the trip I mean) have not gone well so I guess I will leave it alone for a few days.
I cant go as a chaperone b/c there is a parental waiting list for the trip (everyone wants to go!), plus I just had baby #3 and I have no daycare.
ATTENDING CAMPOUT IS NECESSARY CAUSE IN WEBELO'S IT A REQUIREMENT FOR BRIDGEING OVER INTO A TROOP. THE BOYS LOVE THESE IN OUR PACK. THE BOYS PLAY AND PARENTS VISIT.I have a 10 yr. old DD that I don't think would go either. She will not stay overnight at anyone's house until she has been there MANY times and knows and is comfortable with the whole family. I don't think that is all bad.
She just started Middle School this year (5th grade). I just found out that in 6th grade, they do a 3 day nature camp thing too. I am already wondering if she will go next year. Fortunately, the way our school is set up, 1/2 of the grade leaves Mon. morning and comes back Wed. afternoon, the other 1/2 leaves Wed. afternoon and comes back Fri. afternoon. So anyone who doesn't want to, or can't go, stays behind with the 1/2 of the grade that is at school.
Is there anyway you can go as a Chaperone?
MamaBear
If you cannot go as a Chaperone, I would not force him to go. Talk about it more, and have his teacher talk to him.My son didn't want to go on his grade camp out either. It was finally arranged that he could tell his teacher if he was homesick and wanted to come home. She would then use her cell phone to call me and I would go get him and take him back for the days only.
You could also ask if he could go the first 2 days only and then stay the last night if he wanted to. Talk to his teacher and see what you can come up with.
Children with ADHD are not at the same maturity level as their ( there is a formula that actually figures out their social maturity age---it was posted on this site a while ago) and in my opinion 8 years old is still quite young...is there anyway you and your son could go and just spend a day there.
My 7 year old boy is a cub scout and has no interest in going on the campout.
Hi - I am a "new" old member (forgot my old login so I had to reregister) and have returned to this site for some support, help and someplace to vent. Long story short - 8yo boy, adhd, some slight anxiety (according to neuro psych eval), no meds (they were bad for us after several tries), private school (montessori). He is a pretty good kid when he slows down long enough to realise what he is doing. Definitely on the H side of ADHD. Newest problem - his anxieties are worsening (I think) - he is refusing to go on this school trip the kids do for 3-5 grades to this overnight (3day) adventure camp. His reasons are:
1. I will miss my family too much (yes, hes been away before successfully sleepovers at friends and 2 weeks at grandmas in fla this summer)
2. I cannot take my DS (yeah that is kinda the point of going!!!)
3. I am scared of heights, bears, the cold, camping etc etc etc
4. He wears overnight diapers b/c he doesnt wake up
Any advice here? I know he will regret not going when his friends get back, he so far as i know is the only kid out of 30 who doesnt want to go. I know it will be a great experience for him, it is part of his class lessons on school days. I offered to work on the bathroom thing, threatened to not let him have his DS during the classtime anyway, I dismiss the b/c I will miss YOU too much - that's a manipulative play I have heard before - its the multitude of fears I dont know how to handle. I am planning to talk to teachers and admin this week b/c I dont know their policy if a kid doesnt go - I am not sure it has EVER come up in the 25yrs the school has been doing the trip! Any advice would help - thanks
I know that my little one would not want to go either. She is also 8 and has not accomplished successfully a sleepover at anyone's house that isn't family. We have tried at friends houses and I get that phone call to come and get her.
I agree with some of the others in trying to set up something where if he gets too homesick and they can't persuade him to stay that you can come and get him.
Let us know how it all turns out.