soccer no more | ADHD Information

Well, after the last practice where he attacked another player, and today where he wouldn't quit arguing, we are done.  It is not fair to the other players as they want to play and learn, and Cody inhibits that.  I think the other parents are afraid that Cody will hurt their children, and I do not blame them.  I am sad for my son, he wants to be in soccer, but he cannot handle it.

btw, my son has either ADHD and Cyclothymia or the later alone.  He is not medicated now as he cannot tolerate Depakote.

I am so sorry the two of you are going through this. Hopefully you will find a path that works for your son. btw, we are going to look at other meds.

What is Cyclothymia? I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you can find something that works well for him.

Cyclothymia is kinda like a milder form of bipolar.  There are highs and lows, but not as extreme as true bipolar.  I, too hope we find something, and soon.Are you going to try another med soon?

lillian -

how often does ypur child do martial arts? my ds tried last year - great instructor but.... 2 days after school got to b too much with homework - do u think once a week would still see progress? i thought it was helping but dh pulled the plug after ds started completely zoning out during classes....

My son doesn't do it anymore.  He's dyslexic, and he started having lots of problems with the forms.  He was one belt from black, and as the classes advanced, forms were stressed more and more.  He had problems with the directionality and said, "To stay in, I'm going to have to study karate, and I don't want to study karate.  I have enough studying to do."  In my opinion, it was more the embarrassment of mixing up left and right.  He got to where he would be slightly slower than the rest of the kids because he would wait for them to move, and he would copy which direction they were going in.   Sorry, I didn't answer your question.  He used to go twice a week.  I think an hour would be fine, though, if the dojo will allow it. 

[QUOTE=HeyBoo]I second what everyone else has said about the karate instructor! How awful. My daughter has recently taken up Taekwondo. Her master is demanding but also extremely kind and understanding - he didn't even kick her out of the program when she called 911 from the office one time when she was left alone. (Two officers showed up in the middle of class!) I think the martial arts thing is great for my kiddo. She tried and failed miserably at soccer. I think team sports are just too overwhelming for her but in Taekwondo, she can work at her own pace, is always moving and gets to be loud. The master told me many ADHD kids excel at martial arts.

It might be worth looking into again. Whatever you do, good luck.
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     Oh, I'm sitting here laughing out loud.  That's hysterical!

I second what everyone else has said about the karate instructor! How awful. My daughter has recently taken up Taekwondo. Her master is demanding but also extremely kind and understanding - he didn't even kick her out of the program when she called 911 from the office one time when she was left alone. (Two officers showed up in the middle of class!) I think the martial arts thing is great for my kiddo. She tried and failed miserably at soccer. I think team sports are just too overwhelming for her but in Taekwondo, she can work at her own pace, is always moving and gets to be loud. The master told me many ADHD kids excel at martial arts.

It might be worth looking into again. Whatever you do, good luck.
Hey, RamblinDad!  Nice to see you ramblin back this way!I bet a good dojo would alow an hour, especially if you explain why. My master taught and believed that Karate was not just a skill but part of life's balance and he would have jumped at the chance to help one of us kids achieve the best focus we could with every aspect of our lives just so we could achieve the best focus we could with Karate.

Lilian - Thanks for the welcome back.

Oh, at the wrong dojo, the instructor can be mean!  My son went to a dojo where the instructor took us both into the office, spent an hour talking about HIMSELF, and told my son how he, the instructor, turned his students into "warriors"  .  He was nuts, and he had all these metals and trophies he had won, lining the room and hanging on the walls.    Yeah, I think men with high levels of testosterone can be drawn to martial arts competitions . 

How about a family sport, like bowling? 

I do not know.  We go to see the pdoc Wed.  and will talk about it then.  I would imagine so, but the doc may want to let his system get cleaned out.

  Are individual sports equally as difficult for him, or is it just team sports?

Mostly team sports.  He does better in wrestling, but still has problems in practice at times when the boys get all riled up because he cannot calm down as easily as the others. He has no brakes.  I just want to go have a good cry for him, but the house is too small.  Everyone would know, and the kids get too worried.  Guess I probably shouldn't try to quit smoking yet, at least I can go outside for a moment.  He wants to do well, but just cannot hold it together.  He is really a good kid, but few take long enough time to see this.

[QUOTE=crazymama] Guess I probably shouldn't try to quit smoking yet, at least I can go outside for a moment.  [/QUOTE]

  

Have you tried martial arts?  A lot of us have had success with this and our ADHDers.  My son did it for three years.

Yep, tried martial arts.  Both he and his sister hated it.  They thought the instructor was "mean" and he had a very heavy accent so he was hard to understand.  They have a boxing club in town, but that kinda scares me.  Why teach an explosive child to box?  I think it could be very bad.  Lillian, I do not know if there is an answer.  I am just so sad and worried for him.  It has to be horrible to want to do something, but not be able to do it and not be able to control the way you act.

 

btw, I do not smoke in the house.  may as well only pollute myself.

I am sorry to hear about the soccer. It's hard with ADHD kids. I'm my sons coach and I didn't think he would make it last year, due to similar circumstances. This was before he was diagnosed ADHD. It was so hard to control. Luckily I was his coach and new how to deal with it because I had been all his life. This unknowingly gave me the tools I needed to get him to function well enough to at least play, if not all that well.

After we got him on meds and leveled out over the past year this soccer season has been the best. Weather it is meds or alternatives keep hope that he will improve and be able to function well with his peers. So keep up your hopes and keep working with him with love and patients, the later is hardest, and you will make it.

I agree. It sounds like you found a bad karate instructor. There are good ones out there. I suggest if you decide to try again that you observe some lessons without your kids and see how the other children are taught. You may find a great dojo near you.

Good luck.
Sorry you are having such a hard time crazymomma, we are trying gymnastics which he  is not that good at but loves jumping on the trampoline...

I think we will wait for wrestling, and pray that our med situation gets worked out.  Nothing is  better than the Depakote.  That did some bad stuff to him.  By the time wrestling practice happens in the evening, some meds would be worn off anyways.

 

 

Lillian-  the bowling alleys here also have large arcades,and all he wants to do is play video games.  maybe ping pong?  lol