adhd w/anxiety
jareds mom, that must have been very unsettling for you to hear your son ask how long till he dies. As parents we tend to think the worst at times, this type of talk if a concern, but also he could have meant something completely different.
He may be worried about dieing and wants to know how long life is. I would talk to him about this remark and ask him where it comes from. Tell him how much it would destroy you to loose him an how much he is loved. Perhaps he needs a lot of reinforcement in this area. Every opportunity you have- take it to cuddle him.
Is there anything that he is good at that he could get involved in, cubs, scouts, footy, etc. Perhaps if he has one thing in his life that he could look forward to his spirits might lift a little. Even an art class!
This is my first time so bear with me is it common that adhd and anxiety go hand in hand . my son 8 years old has both as well. We cant seem to get a handle on either one. He is on Concerta 36mg and Risperadall now. He has been on ritalin, adderal, strattera,zoloft etc. We are struggling now he attends counseling sessions, social skill group, lunch bunch at school and we are no more closer to a calmer self controlled child then when we began this journey three years ago. He is so isolated and lonely . the lonely is his word. to sum up about four months ago after a horrible school year he asked me "mommy how long till i get to die. pretty heavy for an 8 year old. will watch for anyone else with thoughts on this
Thank you for all your kind words . AS far as when he "gets " to die I think he was feeling and is so overwhelmed he cant deal. We have spoken to his doctors and we are all working on it. When I see what it takes at times to get through his days it is a heart break but to see that he can articulate that is a blessing i guess.
He has told us that he only feelings comfort at home and he loves to see his family at the end of school or the day. Jared has no idea why he does what he does but he knows that it aggravates people and peers specifcally
Hello Jareds mom. Our ten year old son Cam is adhd with depression and anxieties. We just got dx in June of this year. Cam is on ritalin and zoloft which have been working out fine for him. I understand what you are going thru because Cam was very depressed last year in school....his teachers did not know what was going on with him...so he didn't get the proper help from them. He would say terrible things...and draw awful pictures. My heart ached for him. But now we are heading down the right path...and he is doing better. His self esteem has gotten a bit better as well as his self worth. He has an excellent teacher this year....and we have been reading many books and looking on the net for information which has helped us. We are on a waiting list for councelling. I am here if you need to talk.....I know how you feel. Take care and good luck. Cam's mom.Plese forgive me if this sounds paranoid, but did he say "mommy how long til I GET to die"?
If he really did use the word "get", does this mean it is something he is looking forward to? If so you need to have a long talk to see if something is going on in his head. Before we started to see a therapist & before meds my son talked about wanting to go to heaven because he wasn't like everyone else. We are a Christian family & we discussed that God decides when it is time for us to go to heaven & that if you take your own life, you do not go to heaven.
I hope I am off base here, but I just wanted to point this out in case he is thinking that dying is an answer.
Oh, one other thought, I think Strattera is not only for ADHD, but for depression also. BNut check that out first before you take my word for it.
[QUOTE=jareds mom]This is my first time so bear with me is it common that adhd and anxiety go hand in hand . my son 8 years old has both as well. We cant seem to get a handle on either one. He is on Concerta 36mg and Risperadall now. He has been on ritalin, adderal, strattera,zoloft etc. We are struggling now he attends counseling sessions, social skill group, lunch bunch at school and we are no more closer to a calmer self controlled child then when we began this journey three years ago. He is so isolated and lonely . the lonely is his word. to sum up about four months ago after a horrible school year he asked me "mommy how long till i get to die. pretty heavy for an 8 year old. will watch for anyone else with thoughts on this
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