MY SON - yes bet you didnt expect that!!!!!
I want to give no medication a go, but my husband is dead against it. He thinks I will be guilty of creating a failure. He has been really pleased with his progress in school since he has been on meds. You may all remember some of the posts I have posted lately about why i have made this decision. But when I ask my son if he wants to go off them - in front of my husband he says no he doesnt) grrrrrr.
I am so frustrated!!!!!! My husband suggested trying a placebo for a week and seeing if he controls himself because he THINKS he is on his meds. Might try this.
I know he will do badly again in school without them, but I am so overwhelmed at the moment with worry regarding side effects that I feel guilty giving them to him.
I think part of the problem is my own hang ups. You see Damian is my son, not my husbands biological son (however the only father he has known, my husband has been in his life since he was 20 months old), his biological father left me when he was 10 months old and I have no knowledge of his whereabouts as he is a drug addict.
I feel overprotective of my son, because I feel that I am the ONLY one in the world that understandstands, loves and supports him. I have no faith that anyone else does. On top of that his ADHD does not make him a favorite in anyone elses heart by mine.
Some times I feel like just running away with him alone. (terrible isnt it). When he had gromments in his ears at 13 months, it was just me to comfort him, no one else. I had no support when he suffered with ear infections for 12 months before I could get the operation. This instilled in me a sense of being a single mother raising a son, regardless of being married now. I find it really hard to take advice concerning him, because I think peoples advice is based on "how to fix him" not "how to love him".
I will look for another pediatrician on monday - because I feel mine is the "just medicate them" type. And this pediatrican has not helped me find any behavioural modification groups or recommended any counselling.
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