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 I am a girl my husband was lookin over my shoulder while i was reading and i told him he can ask yall anything he wants and he will get advice so thats what he did and we actually sat down and talked about things we can do for our son truth be told hubby thought our son was just going through a phase. 

You are definitely not alone!  A friend of mine first pointed out the symptoms and suggested I try giving DS a 20oz bottle of Mountain Dew and see what happens.  (He had been given the same advice.)  You see MD has more sugar and twice the caffeine than most other sodas.  Anyway, I tried it, and for a half hour he was calm and quiet, in many ways!  Then, during one of his soccer games, my best friend broached the subject with me.  I found out that her husband was also ADHD, but controlled it with meds.  I started watching DS more and more.  I finally sat down with DH after DS was in bed and we talked about it.  Even so, it took us a while before we were called to a parent-teacher conference about DS's inability to complete his work (they said when he did his work, he was very bright, but just did not finish any of it) and his inattention.  The principle was present and offered us pages from one of the many books on ADHD about intervention.  We looked them over, but they were things we were already doing, without any prompting from anyone.

DS's pediatrician was able to sit down with us and diagnose him.  She went over how we were going to approach medication, explained all the side-effects, and asked us if this was something we wanted to try.  DS and I usually try to stay wholistic, using natural remedies whenever possible.  However, this was one area where we agreed that maybe going with the medication was our best bet.  We didn't want to go through unnecessary years of trial and error before we found something that worked, so we opted for the treatment plan his pediatrician prescribed.  He's been diagnosed under a year, and the only problems we're having his his growth spurts and metabolizing the meds.  His side effects are minimal.  Every once in a while, he gets a bit moody, or doesn't pay attention to us, or doesn't want to finish his dinner when he was famished only moments before.  That's all we've had to deal with. 

To Recee's hubby, my hubby is online on this page, too.  He's RamblinDad.  You can write him any time, and he'll be happy to help you through this.  We're still new at this, too, so we're still learning as we go.

Good Luck!!!! 

I can only relate our experience and do not know how my 10yo daughter (ADHD, learning disorders, ODD, anxiety and depression) compares to your son. I hope this helps a bit (sorry it is sooooo long.

Different types of doctors have different approaches and expertises; and it can be hard to sort through them. Psychologists do talk therapy (and play therapy, etc), and can sometimes help with parent coaching, and they cannot prescribe meds. There are also ADHD coaches that can help parents with coaching issues because parenting an ADHD child is not like parenting a "normal" child (the same things do not work and can be counter intuituve). Psychiatrists are better at diagnosis for complex issues like ADHD with coexisting disorders like ODD, etc and mainly work out the diagnosis and then manage the medication (optimization and ongoing). We have seen both child psychologist and psychiatrist and they have different approaches but each has a place in my child's care. Both listen to our concerns and have made very good suggestions for handling the issues we have discussed with them.

My older daughter is easy to parent and the things that are successful with her are a disaster with the younger one (the one with ADHD). My daughter's psychologist was working with play therapy for my daughter's anxiety and depression that developed related to her frustration at school. The need for this faded with the summer (and no school), but I am prepared to return to it if things start going badly again. We are working closely with the psychiatrist now to optimize meds. He feels that if we can get the meds correct, we can then see which of the other issues come back and tackle them. Both doctors were pleased that we started a positive reinforcement behavior plan (ogram's marble system); they both had suggestions to help my husband and I become more consistant parents and we have seen significant lessening of the oppositional ODD) symptoms. We had asked both doctors for suggestions on parenting and a posible referal to a coach if what we were doing failed badly (fortunatly we have had good luck).

vickie38973.6645023148 im sitting here with my wife trying to understand peoples point of views but how many of you are better dealing with your children than the drs or psychs do you get any good advise or results because my wife takes our son to everything she is told to and i havent seen a change im also asking your spouse point of view also if you also ask me i think hes changed for the worse since talkin to some of these psychs.1.)  You sound like my husband.
2.)  Not that it matters, but I assumed you were a chick.
Honestly, I went on my own path and yes I DO know my son better than they do. Why wouldn't I? I had all the support put in place BEFORE he was evaluated. Also, his ped wanted him medicated and I didn't listen to her either. Do I see any changes? Most definitely and for the good. I'd have to thank all of the support he's had throughout the years and give myself a pat on the back. As for my 'husband' .. doesn't apply to me. I'm a single parent and proud. I honestly got only one thing out of seeing professionals for my son- I
needed confirmation that there was something wrong and that it wasn't
just me. I have read a great deal and that has helped, but I needed to pick
and choose through a lot of theories and information to come to my own
conclusions. I ended up accepting a diagnosis of severe ADHD, no
Aspergers or autism, yet I have found that specific "autism" treatments
and approaches have helped a great deal. None of the psychologists that
we saw would have taken that approach. The only doctor that I felt really
"got" him was a tester for the Regional Center. I needed information, and I
got that from books and forums like this. I needed confidence, and I got
that from just learning and watching and trying things. It was scary and I
still worry so much at times.

My son's dad, my ex, has severe ADHD himself. He doesn't want to know
anything about the doctors I have taken him to and the tests that have
been done, but he has remarked on the huge improvement with meds,
and he follows any discipline or behavioral strategy I ask him to. He
seems to be applying some things to his own life, too!

We are all learning and growing as we raise these challenging kids,and we
all want what is best for them. Good luck with your son...

I really didn't get much out of seeing professionals. I got a report to give to the school with classroom recommendations that also knocked the school psycholgist's report into left field, so I guess it was worth it. Bottom line, I'm more tuned into my son that any of these professionals. I analyze him, I observe him, I compare his behavior over long periods of time. I listen to the professionals, but at this point, I do my own research and follow my own path. I take what I want and toss the rest.

As for my husband, I am aware that he  believes that ADHD should be addressed on a biological basis. There is some indication that his behavior was similar to my son's as a child. He has made several suggestions to me regarding supplements and food that he feels help him. He is not inclined to approach this from a psychological standpoint.

 

I want 2 thank everyone who answered this ? because now my husband knows we are not alone in our situation. also i want to wish everyone a goodluck with their children and even tho sometimes its hard we always have to remember our patience and understanding our love and prayers go out to everyoneSo you are a girl.  Or is recee a couple?