Lying | ADHD Information

voxpopulli- I've been through the lying thing too.  My son's therapist told us to look him in the eye, ask him if this is a true story or a made up one, and if he still insists it's true, then tell him it's not and the reason why you know it's not true.  We've been doing that consistently and it's really cut down on the frequency of the lying.

Your recess story remind me of my son too.  He would come home from school and tell us bits and peices of things that happened and it wouldn't really make sense.  He could never related information in a sequential order either.  It wasn't until we started him on meds and suddenly he was able to tell us stuff in a way that made sense that we realized it was the disorder making him do that.  I guess his mind was just a jumble of information by the end of the day or something.

 what if us as a parent is telling a lie to get your kids to tell the truth for instance like dont lie i allready know but i want you to tell me. Does that make us bad parents? if we really dont know just want them to tell the truth right away instead of them diggin their lie deeper.

Well when his daddy got home tonight, they had a talk and the truth came out...again lol

He did miss recess two times but so did the whole class.  They had to spend their recess practicing how to line up he said.  I asked him why he didn't just explain that all to me and why did he make up the "it was a joke" and then the "she is tricking you" lie.  He said he just forgot about the truth.  Yea, right so we told him he wasn't allowed to go the neighbors after dinner like planned since he lied. 

The main thing that we can punish him for and we know it will "get to him" is to not allow him to play with the neighbors.  We told him that if he did this sort of thing again and tried to manipulate me then he lost seeing the boys for a whole week.  He actually picked the punishment and time frame lol  We would probably not keep him from his friends a whole week but long enough to make it a punishment at least.

I hate to think that my son is already learning how to manipulate me and I have to make him aware that it won't work.  I would have been very upset about the pills too!  Stockpiling that many could be dangerous if something or someone ate them all or ate too many at once!  Glad you found them and avoided any disasters.

Recee---  I don't think that makes up bad parents I think that makes us using what we can to protect our kids. 

Oh yeah...about the PE thing. Dillon told me today he got in trouble in PE, him and another boy had to stand in the hot sun "he said" baking to death, the whole time during PE. (It's still 90 degrees here) That just makes me so mad! I really don't know what to do about it.

He also came home with no folder today and I was scared he did something with it so I would not see something bad. I told him I was going to talk to the teacher in the morning and he said fine. We'll see!

I am not worried about the manipulation and fibs right now. I am trying to make him tell the truth then not get upset, so he knows he will be able to trust talking me with me about anything in the future. Al lmy friends are going through this with their kids of this age...it's normal.

 well ill be honest with you all my youngest thinks i have a nanny cam in the house i never admitted or denied it. but hey if it works by using that it beats him throwing the biggest tantrum or throwing things like he use to because he got caught in a lie. we still go thru it if he does something unacceptable and gets time out or sent to his room the war begins and we hear he hates his parents then he turns around apologises and saids love u momim usually his target dad isnt.

DillonsMom,

We use gummy vitamins.  He loves them and we know he is getting his vitamin.  They are made by Lil Critters and is sold in most store pharmacies.  We started off with gummy bears, and have been getting sour gummy worms for the last 6 months or so.  He gets it at night before he goes to bed.

We had to cut out the morning tv.  We'd watch the news, and his favorite part was the cooking segment.  But he wouldn't eat, wouldn't get dressed, and I was pulling my hair faster than it could turn gray!  I really miss hearing the local news, but it's preserved more of my sanity and my hair! 

My girl will lie but not as bad so far she just does not like taking responsibility for her actions.  In my girls case it can be ODD too and i am going to let the psychologist handle it.Wash his mouth out with soap!  That works for me whenever I want to make the point that if something bad/nasty comes out of his mouth, something bad/nasty is going to be going in his mouth! TEACH YOUR CHILD HONESTY. TELL THEM IT'S OK TO LET YOU  NO THERE FEELINGS. WE HAVE HAD THIS A ISSUE BUT i ALSO BELIEVE IF THE CHILD HAS CAPD ALSO REMEMBER THEY AREN'T CATCHING EVERYTHING BEING HEARD ALSO.  WE DISCUSS DAILY NOW ALL HIS DAYS EVENTS AT SCHOOL. WE TALK ABOUT DIFFERENT WAYS TO HANDLE THE PROBLEM NEXT TIME. My dad did that with me.
It didn't help with me.
I lied because of lack of self-confidence.
That needed work. The soap did not help this in any way.
It was degrading and disrespectful. You need to find out why they lie.
 im gonna throw this out there could it be they want attention Of course it could be.

I like Ograms marble method instead of washing a kids mouth out with soap.
That is so primitive & degrading.
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I went thorugh all this with Dillon, still am a little. he loves to tell "stories". And lately, just tonight, Daddy asked him is he had already taken a shower and he said "no" matter of factly. I said Dillon, quit telling fibs. He just laughed. He does this all the time. He was lying really bad a year or so ago. I read him the boy that cried wolf story. Last year I used to put all his vitamins on his table while he was watching TV and eating breakfast. I would go about my morning routine and they would all be gone, I would ask him if he ate them and he said yes every time. Something told he was wasn't. Well, a few months later I was cleaning in a corner long forgotten in the living room, and low and behold...........at least 50 vitamins under a corner table!!!!!!!! I WAS LIVID! he lied to me all that time. From that moment on I sat and watched him eat every one, up until this day, a year later. Recently I have started trusting him with it though. I kind of keep an eye, but he has been eating them, I think he got the message. It is normal for this age group to lie and tell stories, it actually shows how intelligent they really are!

Don't worry, just keep explaining to him it is not right and do what you got to do, but he will grow out of it I think.

Anyone else have a child that tells stories or lies?  It seems like lately we have been catching Isiah telling little "stories" or we have busted him in lies.  Today the neighbor was telling me that the other day she asked Isiah how his day was at school.  She said he told her that he had to sit out recess twice.  She said she felt so bad that she told her husband that she just didn't think that was right because you don't sit him out when he needs to burn that energy.  I was baffled because I hadn't heard that from him or the teacher. 

So I asked him about it tonight and at first he said he was joking with her but forgot to tell her "knock knock" (he is six lol) and she ended up believing him.  I told him that it wasn't a joke because jokes are supposed to be funny not used to gain sympathy!  I lectured him about lying, making up stuff and reminded him of the boy who cried wolf.  I also told him that he would have to tell her the truth and he said "ok...but can we call after dinner to see if he can go over to play?"  In other words, he has no problem or shame in what he did.  

Then later he says that he never said that to her and that SHE is trying to trick me!  He swears this is the truth now....he is six and this isn't the first lie we have caught him in lately.  I so don't know what to do...am I raising a pathological liar already?  My brother could spin a lie or tale in a heartbeat without batting an eye...I know I am overly worried right now but what am I to do?

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