we live in Albany at the moment. He has an IEP since April 04 and hasn't really been diagnosed, just red flags and DP says he may be a candidate.
He gets OT, PT and has had a Seit since May. New teacher this year and it is only PK and knowing all of the above she has mentioned and complained about him 3 times in 3 short weeks, it is only a 4 hour per day program, PK.
I just want to ask members if I really need to keep child in this place. There's probabaly nothing else but heck, he just turned 4 two weeks ago. What if it's damaging? Teachr is negative, harsh and tough. Each time she complains to me I am angry for the whole day with my son whose fault I guess this IS not.
Wouldn't it be best to keep him with his Mom or myself (his Dad) until 5 or even 6? He hates the circle thing, cannot sit still that long, talks way too much and too loud for the teacher and frankly I happen to Not have too many problems with him! She complained he was not writing his name, we know that, she complained he touches others and has trouble witih transitions. HAS ANYONE been there and decided to get out? Homeschool maybe? Nothing maybe? He's smart but he will forever learn differently.
Is it a good program? Has your child been in a daycare program? If so, he may already know all the stuff that they are doing in pre-K. BORING!! Many teachers at the younger levels expect children to all fit into a certain mold, whereas this goes out the door when they reach the older grades and have more independence. I think it's ironic that the older kids get and are more able to follow rules, the fewer rules they actually have. If this cranky teacher keeps at your son, I would certainly pull him out and/or try to find a different program, maybe a Montessoree where he can go at his own pace. It would be tragic for this person to forever taint how your child feels about school and learning.We have a son who is 4 and in a pre-school program. Last year our teacher was not that great -- complained about some things that, frankly, had nothing to do w/ ADHD. It was a tough year but we felt important for him to have interaction with his peers (3 days/week for 3 hours/day).
This year we got a GREAT teacher who is much more understanding. However, we went in w/ a list of things that she might notice and talked about what we do at home (for example, he likes to chew on his clothes, fingers, etc. so we told her we were aware of it and just ask that he take them out of his mouth). We will definitely hold him back a year before he starts Kindergarten to give him a year to grow up a bit. We'll do a pre-K program next year 5 days/week for half days.
Do you have your son on any meds or supplements? We have had a lot of success with supplements....
Is this a special ed pre K program? If so the teacher should have more understanding. I suggest you go in and spend the whole morning observing. If they dont want you to do this then I would pull him.You say he has an IEP? Some of these problems should be covered in his IEP & if they aren't (or if they are but the IEP isn't being followed) you can call a meeting of the IEP team. My daughter had a HORRIBLE teacher last year. The woman KNEW she has 2 LD's & yet would scream at her "You should KNOW this , EVERY 5th grader knows this"! I had a meeting & we had it written in her IEP that the teachers are to speak to her in a respectful manner & if theres a true problem, bring it to my attention and/or address it privately so as not to embarrass my child in front of all her peers. Theres no reason your child should come home in tears for being screamed at for something he cannot control.Sounds like the pre-k teacher doesn't understand how the IEP works. I guess you need to tell her, and explain the process. She needs to request an IEP meeting where classroom interventions should be put in place, and perhaps a behavior plan. When she calls you, she is barking up the wrong tree.