My son spit at his teacher yesterday. | ADHD Information

When my son was 4 he spit on a little girl at nap time. he got in big trouble and sent home. He never did it again......This is a tough one. I thank god that my son has never done such a thing. Some sort of discipline has to happen. I like the written apology, twenty times, idea that NoTellin offered. I would perhaps make it a bit longer, adding this is unacceptable behavior and I will strive never to do it again. Sure it will take him some time to write all of that out, but maybe he'll remember it. I also really like the idea of a parent going with him to apologize it lets him know you are in charge and will back up the teacher and you are also there to see how the apology is taken and let the teacher know you are enforcing some sort of discipline. Here's my suggestion for what it's worth. Make him write "I am sorry for spitting at you Ms. ____" twenty times and have him deliver it in person to the teacher with you, at which time he will apologize in person as well. Tell him if he does it again he will write it 30 times and deliver it in person to the teacher, and he will deliver a copy to the principal with you, at which time he will also apologize to the principal for his disrespectful behavior.Where we are, spitting is almost as bad as biting, because of AIDS/HIV.  Have you washed his mouth out with soap?  ADD kids need a brand of discipline that gets their attention.  Spanking never did any good with us because it didn't get his attention.  Is this the first time he's done this? I am so angry about this behavior I want to scream.     I don't know what to do with him.   Nothing I've said or done matters.I also agree with Notellin your child should have the natural consequence of doing something nice and the letter it good it makes the child own up to the behavior.I agree with NoTellin and he's not to do anything else until the letter is written. If he doesn't finish the letter (due to behaviour) I would wake him up early in the morning and have him finish it. Wake him up at 5am. Strip his bed. Make sure you inform him what's going to happen in the morning if it doesn't get done. Make the event unpleasant so he's sure not to do it again.INaBOX38979.8908564815Our therapist (though my son hasn't bitten yet, he does everything else) has always said if you must make them write sentences, be sure they are positive statements.such as, "I will be more respectful of my teacher in the classroom." rather than "I will not bite my teacher."  Who knows if it's effective??

[QUOTE=devotedtoyou]Our therapist (though my son hasn't bitten yet, he does everything else) has always said if you must make them write sentences, be sure they are positive statements.such as, "I will be more respectful of my teacher in the classroom." rather than "I will not bite my teacher."  Who knows if it's effective??[/QUOTE]

Good point.

I think the letter is a great idea for the first offence.  I'd certainly let him know that it will get worse if he does it again.  My son always did better if he knew exactly what would happen the next time, unfortunately mine always had to try it at least once more.  I would let him know he will loose a priviledge for a few days as well as writing a letter.  I also clearly told him You will never spit at people, its is wrong.Right, except he's not quite 4 yo.   He doesn't write letters.