we did try to sit down and eat as a family but it was a nightmare,jude would run off and fidget and whinge and would not eat so we put a little table in the living room just for him and althought there is a chair,he just won't sit but at least he was eating(i say was because the last 10 days he has refused to eat for a strange reason).my daughter and husband also eat in the living room when he is home.
jude is not medicated but i am and i have no appettite until the meds wear off so i usually eat later.
Well it's only me and my son, and his medicine isn't completely out of his system until 8:45 every night, he takes it at 5:45 am, and yes it's 12 hours but, he gets very Hungary at 8:45 pm every night, so this is how i know it's out. So he eats when he's hungry, and i eat whenever.All 6 of us sit together at the kitchen table for dinner. That way we can talk about the day and our thoughts. When one person gets done or in between bites,sometimes we play the "compliment" game". I will start off by saying one compliment for each child and my hubby. Then the girls and my hubby take turns. Even though some of the compliments the girls' say about each other arent always wonderful...98% of the time,they do speak of nice words about one another. It keeps them focused and they will sit longer with us. It gets pretty interesting to say the least.
Maybe your son can take his meds earlier??? At School? What time does he take them in the morning?
We also don't eat dinner together like we should. My husband never gets home at the same time and byt the time he does get home, isiah is starving. So alot of times we eat before he gets here. But if we are all here, we do sit at the table. It might happen once or twice a week.When I was a kid, we always had dinner as a family, so did dh, so it was natural to do it that way. When ds is unpleasant, (whining, complaining, crying) I take his plate and put it in the other room and let him eat dinner by himself. I've only had to do it three or four times and he got the message. My kid isn't hyper, so sitting still isn't a problem, but here's an idea for families who face this: If you have a bar or countertop that you can eat at, try that and let your kid stand up to eat. I know a couple people who have ADHD and have stand up desks where they work, that way they're not forced to sit still. Why wouldn't that work for eating? We used to eat dinner together all the time until we started taking meds. He does not eat very well, so I try to have supper ready around 4:00 or 4:30 so he can eat really well before he gets his afternoon dose. Dad just eats when he gets home. I hate that we don't all sit down together anymore, but I feel that is more important that he eats really well. We try to make up that time together on the weekends.MOSTLY HERE IT'S MOM AND THE KIDS FOR MEALS. TODAY THEY BOTH FIXED DINNER.
Our family eats dinner together, seeing as that is only time we are all together. We have dinner a little early and then I am off to school so, I really love that time that we are together. My son may not always eat at that time but he still sits down with everyone.
I believe a family should eat together........But it doe sNOT happen in this house!
The 1st of the year I told my husband we ARE going to all sit and eat at the table as a family! Well, that lasted a wee, maybe. I eat at the computer, my hubby eats watching TV, and Dillon eats in the bedroom watching TV.....we are SAD!!!!!
I think it's important to eat together as a family. Also, it'll teach him how to behave appropriately at the dinner table and it's better he learns at a younger age then when he's older. How about delaying the meds until 5 that way he's done with dinner by the time it kicks in..
or, delay your dinner time according to his time and eat as a family. I think dinner time is one of the most important time you can have as a family and it would be ashame if you didn't to avoid dealing with behaviours. Think how he'll be once he's a teenager. IMO
We all (wife, sons 8 and 3 and myself) sit down to "have" dinner and other meals together whenever possible. Which means dinners 4-6 times a week, breakfast 3-4 times a week and 1 or 2 lunches. Keep in mind that by have, I don't necessarily mean eat. Aside from requiring one bite of each item on their plates, I don't force my kids to eat a meals. They must however, wash up, sit down, and practice the other mealtime activities before asking to be excused. Sometimes they eat a lot, sometimes one does, sometimes neither is hungry. I think if nothing else it adds routine which is comforting and socialization which is important to us.How do you handle diner time in your family?
Does everyone sit down and eat at the same time?
I find that with giving meds at the end of the school day around 4:00 p.m. He is not hungry at the time my dh and I eat diner. Lately we will eat diner while he is outside playing with neighbor kids and actually enjoy diner together. Then when he is finished playing and the meds are wearing off and he is more likely to eat I feed him.
I really belive in eating and praying together as a family at diner time, but sometimes I just want to talk to dh about my day and his without fighting over eating diner.
Just wondering what other families do at diner time.