i have a two year old and he is all over the place...im sure that he has adhd.... the doctor says it a good chance that he dose... his dad had it when he was little... im having a hard time trying to get him to mind me and to listen to me.... im trying to get him ready for school and to potty train him... but it so hard im at my last leg with him... i dont know what to do... the doctor says there nothing he can do till he 5.... but im about to pull my hair out... can some one help me
kellina
My son was diagnosed at 4 which was a few months ago. Why does your doctor want to wait until 5? I knew my son had ADHD at 2 and I still potty trained him. How I did it was every morning when he would get up I would put him on the potty chair and after he did his business I would set a timer for 15 minutes and put him back on the chair, try reading a book when you do this or a hand play toy.
hi kellina
my son is 3 i think he has symtoms of adhd........but could it still be classed the terrible twos......i also have a 8 year old son with adhd...so that it why i believe he has got it.....i see so many things that are simular.........yes he wont be toilet trained.....he has a temper....he is clumsy.......and get very angry.....he also has speech delay could this be a part of it but my 8 year old had speech delay as well........maybe i need to get him checked out too.......
bump up so this topic is at the top so more people can respond.My daughter is 8yrs old and has adhd, we knew there was something diff about her when she was an infant(comparing to other infants) and as she got older she showed definate signs, she would stay up all night and was always wired needed to be entertained and unfortunately we had to deal with it till she was 4 in preschool.
I will give you a few tips that I used for potty training and just for everyday.
Pottytraining an ADHD child: because they have such a short attention span and seem to forget what they need to do, It is very hard and very time devoting, You have to make your mind up and theirs, That this is the day you will start potty training, Wake them up go straight to bathroom and put underwear on him and tell him to potty, I let my little one play in just the underwear all day and everytime I could think of it I said lets go potty maybe every 5 min, she didn't always use it but she got the picture that even though I was playing I can go potty and come back and play some more, I stressed alot that pottying is soo much fun and how good it feels to be dry and that this was something that she wanted to do to feel better alot of reputition and It worked for me. It takes alot of your time, oh and never put pull ups or anything like thta on them it lets them be lazy if they want...put plastic on their mattress, just incase he has an accident during nap or at night. I have potty trained all 4 of my kids this way and all were potty trained in about a week.
During the day you should let him play outside as much as possible it helps get their energy out, I hate sitting outside but my adhd daughter was sooo much more relaxed in the evenings and didn't get into as much and break stuff.We even ate our lunch outside.
I hope this helps out.
I have a cousin just about to turn five and we're all sure he has ADHD. The only thing I've found that helps when he stays over, is to keep him in a good mood. If he sleeps over then we wake up, he has to try to use the toliet (my Mom did pretty good with this. IDK if your son does it or not, but my cousin doesn't want to use the toilet and often he just goes in his pants. Mom has him 'try' to go because 'pee has a funny way of hiding'. He went to try to use the toliet then he's yelling 'You were right! It was hiding!" lol, we eat breakfast, then i keep him in a good mood. I know it's hard to do since he's your kid and sleeps over everynight lol but just lettin you know what works for me. We always do something to use up all his energy. I think that's the most important thing. Maybe you can find something that keeps him active and happy. As far as the potty training, try stamps or stickers as a reward, they work great.There's a good thread on the Parents board about a marble reward system that many people are having great success with. I'm not sure about as young as two, but they may have some ideas for adapting it. I personally haven't had luck with about any discipline system, but I'm finally realizing it's because I'm not consistent with consequences. This has taken me 8 years to figure it out. (apparently I'm not quick either, heehee)
Also, you could check the alternatives board. If the doctor doesn't want to medicate him at this age, maybe some natural things to at least ease up some of the symptoms. The most frequently mentioned ones seem to be Omega-3's and magnesium. Also a couple people have tried something called Focus - you could look into it and see if it seems right for you guys to try.
Remember that the terrible twos are called that for a reason. It may not be ADHD at all.
On the other hand, was he fussy and active as a baby, always needing to be stimulated? If he has been very active from birth, its more likely to be a combo of terrible twos and ADHD.
If he wasn't a hard baby to care for, he may just be a terrible twos toddler and you can expect him to outgrow it at some point.