It's a shame how driven we feel. We're really great people with a lot going for us but even we fail to appreciate us. We don't value ourselves as human 'beings' but think that we need to be human 'doings'.
I wonder how much has to do with actual ADHD symptoms and how much has to do with feeling not good enough from the negative messages we've been fed most of our lives?
I know I need mental stimulation but I wonder if it's possible to be busy and stimulated without being frantic and overcommitted?
That's my project for this fall and winter. To see if I can find the ballance.
Bingo Bannabunch,
Without the major projects and goals in my life I would feel depressed and purposeless. And considering that my negative ADD behaviors cost me my marriage and my career recently, I am feeling depressed and purposeless. So I guess I need to reevaluate my remaining options and capabilities and see if I can create some new goals and projects to live for....
I love my ADD, but I hate it even more!
Do the rest of you also feel like you're searching for purpose in life? I know what my major purpose and goals are but in the every day, when I'm not busy with something, I tend to feel like there's no meaning to everyday living. I have to have a project going all the time. I like down time but I still have to fill it with something or I feel depressed. As long as I have a goal for the day, I'm ok.I talked to my psyc about it and he said it's just a normal ADHDI don't have a lot of time but to Bannabunch. I just said to my boyfriend the other night... "I am going to open a company and only hire people with ADD/ADHD. ( haha) I said I would probably have the most intelligent, creative, inventive, wonderful (etc... etc...) employees imaginable. Yeah they may be late four out of five days a week, but when they're there they would work their asses off and produce way more quality work along with the quantity of work!!"
I just wanted to share this thought with everyone. And I would like to leave you with this: Don't get down on yourselves. If you are thinking negatively about yourself, just remember this: You may have ADD/ADHD but you are also one of the great minds of this world. Whether intelligent or not. Whether you excel at math, language, drawing, painting, dancing, science, whatever it may be! Look at Albert Einstein, and Benjamin Franklin for example!! (both had multiple symptoms of ADD/ADHD) Think about life if they had never existed. These are the things that I think of when I get down. I just remember I've got something that not everyone else has. It's my enemy at times, but all in all its my greatest ally.
*Megs*
Hey ... the bordem is more then ADD or ADHD... It's a combination of that along with your intelligence level. At least that is what I would conclude from what you've said. I am the same way. I have an I.Q. of 140. (which I just found out by the way) And it's hard as hell for me to consintrate!! or stay interested in anything for more then a few minutes. Or else for example I am like hmmm gonna clean my room...then I see the door knob needs fixed so I start that....then half way through that...I am like crap gotta clean my room....so I go back to that and so on. HAHA! I actually just sit and laugh about that. It's funny. It makes you interesting and who you are....
But back to the topic... coming from someone who knows exactly what you mean. What do you like to do? And I don't mean something you kind of like to do.... What is something you love to do, that if it was a job, you would do?? For example I love to read, if I could read everyday and learn for the rest of my life, I would. Or puzzles I love strategy and problem solving puzzle. You've got to find something to stimulate your brain enough to want to continue doing it. Find something that is a challenge, otherwise you will continue to be bored. Don't put yourself in situations where you'll be bored. Example: My boyfriend likes to watch movies on Friday nights, obviously I can't sit still for a whole movie. Therefore I watch the movie and clean, read, draw, computer, whatever. ANYTHING! Ha, in order to keep me entertain.
My point here is the majority of people (not all) will ADD or ADHD tend to be highly intelligent...their minds just work differently then others. We look at things ass backwards, buuuut we're the minds that make the world. Where would we be without Thomas Edison for example? (there is much proof that he showed many signs of ADD) The bad part is most of us either don't think/ know we're intelligent, because we cant consintrate and what not. Or because of all the years of failure, due to not being challenged enough, we lost belief in ourselves. Wow this has turned in to a lot more then I expected, ha.
So more or less find what you love and can keep you entertained....don't keep going up with your dosage. All that is doing is taking your incredibly creative, and intelligent mind and altering it to fit societys view of how you should be.
Hope this helps a bit! = ]
Oh one more thing: If you are interested.... look up ADHD and Giftedness online... if you look the symptoms of both are almost identical. Is it just me or is anyone else constantly bored. Usually stuff can only
God, boredom has been the bane of my existence!!! Was just formally diagnosed ADD at age 43, but reviewing my life in light of that diagnoses I can see that all of my problems and failures resulted from ADD characteristics, with boredom being at the root of all of them. I have been on Ritalin (40mg - not nearly enough for a 230 lb man) for three weeks and am still bored by everything in life. Except sex, but I can't figure out how to make a career of that. Or maybe I can....
Seriously though, I have just been divorced by my wife of 13 years, and have flunked out of graduate school because the mundane tasks necessary to be successful at both of them were too boring to stand! Even when I knew things were falling apart, I couldn't motivate myself to "act normal" in order to save them because the boredom was so intense!!!
So now I'm bored and depressed. Need more ritalin...
I am the same way.Even during sex..If I don't enjoy it I will be really bored. I can read a book but I have to look in the back to see how the ending is..lol. i would try that but im always doing like 8 things at once just to
Ha... its not just you. I am bored no matter what I am doing. Usually getting online entertains me though because it gives me zillions of websites and things to go to and do. I like to learn so the internet works for me. Find something you wanna learn about...and look it up online.. beleive me, you'll be on for hours, and possibly...not bored. = ]