My parents were totaly against us using meds. They would say things like YOUR raising a rude and disrespectfull little boy. It must be something YOUR doing., etc. etc.
They wanted to take him to their cabin for the whole weekend. Which they have done in the past prior to meds. I lectured them that even though they didn't agree with our choice to use meds, they HAD to give them to him. I told him that I would know as soon as they got back whether or not they had given him the meds.
Well they came back last night and brought me the same boy they left with. When I asked about the meds they told me that they went with the neighbor's one morning and he was just obnixious and my mom explained to the neighbor's that he was on meds, etc. The next day they came over before the med's and even the neighbor said isn't it 8:00 a.m. yet?? As soon as he had his meds he was a different child
I think after having him for a whole weekend and could see how he changed when the meds wore off I think it finally got through their thick skulls that it isn't anything I am doing!!!
Families do not understand unless they deal with it directly. I was accused of not disciplining properly at one point so I stayed away and ignored them. My family too is coming around.I have taken pills for epilepsy ever since I was five, so when I medicated my son, my family took it in stride. My mother-in-law was quite a different story. She threw it up in my face ONCE! I simply told her it was not up for discussion and went and sat in the car. After hastily making their goodbyes, dh and ds came out and we drove home. She called me two days later to apologize! Stand firm and hold your ground! You don't have to justify anything to family members!Isn't it great?!?!!!!! See, my parents are very supportive of me with my dd and her adhd... The in-laws, they don't understand as much. They are supportive, but do not believe I should be giving her meds...
They are taking her on a trip to Colorado for 5 days end of October and MIL says she's not going to give her the meds... I said she has to because it isn't for anyone else benefit, but for my dd's sake. Why should she have to go without her pill that helps her focus.... She will not go if they do not agree to giving her the pill.