Oh, I am so sorry. I know that I get nervous going to events because I don't know how M will behave!
Once when I was speaking to his teacher (4K) I mentioned to her that it breaks my heart to always hear so many negative things, and how I wish that everyone could see the positive, loving, passionate side of our son that we see - now she and the principal both always make it a point to share something positve and fun that he has done.
His teacher even called once and left us a message to specifically let us know that he had had a good day.
Maybe you could talk with his teachers - one of the things our therapist said was that we need to talk about and reinforce the good behaviors, not to dwell on the negative ones. Hopefully the positive reinforcement will motivate him to do well.
Yes, I also do not like going to the school. I act aloof, give no eye contact, stay to myself, and present an unapproacheable demeaner. I get in and get out, making sure to chat with my son, smile at him, wave, etc. Quite frankly, I am just not interested in the opinions of other (ignorant) parents, or a flow of negative comments from the teachers-- if that's all they have to offer. If they cannot be part of the solution, I want them to steer clear of me.I have to leave work at Noon today to go to my son's butterfly parade at school. I don't know if anyone else feels this way but I actually get sick to my stomach every time I have to go there. I know I'm either going to get a negative statement from one of the teachers or parents about something he did and I just can't stand it anymore. Never once have a gotten a note or phone call about something good he did - just the bad. I get the "how can you have your son in that special ed class" comments from the parents.
I hate this!
I know what you mean. I avoid Pack night in Boy Scouts because I'm worried that he'll do something to make others go, "There he goes again. Can't he behave?" My husband swears that our son acts like the other 8 yo's, sometimes being the only one who actually stays in his seat, but the thought still makes me jittery.