My M is a very dynamic boy, and kids seem to be drawn to him. However, due to him being too aggressive, we are hearing from his teachers that the kids are starting to avoid him.
I am hoping that we can get him on track before it gets any worse. We talk a lot about treating his friends the way he would want them to treat him.
NO SCHOOL FRIENDS. HE PREFERS THE KIDS HE HAS KNOWN WHERE WE LIVED BEFORE AND SCOUT PEERS. HERE THE FAMILIES STICK TO GETHER WHO WENT TO THE LOCAL SCHOOL ALSO. STAFF HERE ALSO REALLY DON'T HELP WITH SOCIAL SKILLS. JOKS HERE ARE THE POPULAR CROWD. ALL SE KIDS NO THEY ARE DIFFERENT WHICH I BELIEVE IT'S CAUSE THEY ARE AVOIDED. My son is the type that only sticks to one friend. He usually says that he is the only friend he has. Last school year he had social problems in school; the teacher told me that she wanted him to be changed to another grade section so he could be with new kids because he was starting to be teased by others. Last year he wasn't on medication. He started this school year with an adhd plan that includes medication. Just yesterday I had a meeting with his teacher and school psychologist and they told me that everything seems to be going fine. He hasn't had any social issues and seems to be friendly with every kid. At the playground he is also doing fine. So I feel relieved to see that my son is much more confident this year.My daughter is 17, and has had a rough road when it comes to friendships. She was very lonely in grade school, as she didn't pick up social cues and people quit trying to befriend her. She has a nice core group of friends now, but it is a small group. My son is a very popular boy and is out all the time, and I know this makes my daughter a little sad. I wish everyone could see how wonderful my daughter really is, and she hadn't had to suffer so much lonliness in her life. How do your kids do? My son did not really have friends until I put him on meds. In K he had a couple but he and his brother ended up going to pre-first so those friends moved up a grade. He went for "maturity/academic" and his bro for academic. after this he really did not have friends and wasn't invited to many parties (only those who knew he was a twin and they were inviting his bro, who everyone seems to like) this was starting to effect him emotionally and eroded his self esteem. he was coming home saying "i hate myself"etc. I finally put him on meds in third grade. now it is only on his "bad days" where he will say how stupid he is "in some things" he now has more friends and the kids can handle being with him. Unfortunately he does tend to gravitate towards those kids who are not hmmm "angels" and I worry that he won't think prior to doing things and get in more trouble. I am lucky in this area.. So far he has been able to make friends at school and in our neighbood.. he does get his feeling hurt at times during neighborhood play, but there is always someone to play with.. he does have problems with pick up games.. ect, basketball or whiffle ball.. our neighborhood is big on these two games.. he starts to play then usually stops and goes and does something else..My daughter is 9 years old. She is very well liked by her peers because she is always thinking up something fun to do. She has "aquaintances" more than best friends. I am not sure why. She is very concerned with who is who's best friend, but never really gets close to any one person.
She also likes to play with boys more than girls - I think because of their activity level.
The girls she is friends with are usually very smart and "with it".
She does not ever want to have anyone over. She does go to others' houses when invited.
I think that ADD'ers know they are different down deep.
My son plays mostly with the kids in the neighborhood. They get off the bus together and end up playing after school. As far as in school, he has some friends but not a whole lot. I don't push the issue with the other kids in school as most parents won't let their children play with my son because he's in special ed for reading and math. My town is awful with the clickiness. My son is happy and doesn't seem to care so the days he doesn't have playdates I make sure to keep him busy.My daughter up until this year (9) would just focus on one friend and sort of never leave their side until the friend would need some space, then she would be hurt and basically not want to be with them at all. We had her participate in a social skills group this summer and she seems MUCH better--now she has a group of friends who seem to have a few interests in common, and are nice. We don't see them outside of school because she goes to a private school that's pretty far away, but it seems like that's the way it is with all of the kids at the school.