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I wish I had an answer for you but my son is inconsistent as well. He's been great both at home and school Monday-yesterday and this morning he was a bear to deal with. The only thing I can suggest is determine whether he ate something different that could have effected his behavior or maybe went to sleep later than usual. Something could have happened at school that frustrated him as well and he may not want to talk about it. Everyone has a bad day now and then so maybe it'll pass and he'll go back to being on track.hello friends: I just want to vent a little.
Yesterday I had a bad day with my son. In the morning before shool everything was fine but when he came back he was on a very bad mood, answering back, and not willing to cooperate with homework. Eventhough I had been told by his psychologist to be as calmed as I can, I couldn't control getting very upset when I saw that he wasn't unable to focus. I raised my voice, he started crying, everything was a mess. On the other hand I saw he biting his nails and pulling his lip (until the blood came out) during the whole afternoon. He was opposed to go the psychopedagogical therapy and showed a similar behavior during it (he didn't want to cooperate with the tutor; she said that she noticed constant hand movements). Later we went to karate class with one of his friends and he almost drove me crazy during the drive. In class he was completely out of focus, just biting nails and pulling lip. When we went to drop his friend home they played for about 5 minutes while I spoke to his mom. In that time my son broke a lego toy (it could be fixed) of his friend (without intention)his friend was in tears saying he didn't want him anymore to play with him. My son was in shock; he usually doesn't cry for these issues and couldn't understand anything.
Is this normal? When everything seems to be under control from your part, that you are doing everything you can and everything seems to be on the go, why this suddenly happens? I am usually really anxious and when I see these things happen I become very nervous and disappointed.
Sorry to be long, but I feel now that I need a little support. My friends here where I live don't have the same issues with their kids so they don't understand.
Sorry to be so long, But I feel really sad since I was very enthusiastic with everything I am doing for my son and these kinds of days turn me really sad.
Thank you for your reply boogadoo 1 and cr12345mr.
I have to say that my son did soccer last year and didn't seem enthusiastic at all. It was another stressful time for me to go and see him play. I decided to enroll him in karate as a suggestion from the psychologist who is working with him. I asked my son to choose only one sport since he was also in golf classes. He went to a trial class and decided that he wanted karate. Up to now he seems very enthusiastic about it, he seems to be enjoying every class and was starting to get better since his medication started doing effect (he is on strattera). But just yesterday I noticed everything collapsed. I think that probably the schools demands are getting more difficult for him. He attends a bilingual school; his native language is Spanish and he is learning English as a second language. So every week he gets a lot of new English words that he must memorize for the spelling test that is every Friday: I don't know why this week those words almost got him crazy. I suppose that he might have been very stressed knowing that he had to memorize those words that get more difficult each week, and probably this showed up yesterday in his mood. As for school matters he has a tutor that helps him twice a week but not in English, so I have to be his English teacher. Paying another private English teacher for me is not possible because I can't afford it; all extras I have go directly to my son's treatment. In my country we don't have any kind of insurance that covers this kind of problem. I am really considering if this is the right school for him, on the other hand the fact of learning English is crucial; school faculty has been very supportive with my son's problem but I don't know if that bilingualism is recommended for him. I suppose that he must be totally lost in English class since the teacher only and exclusively speaks English (it's a rule in school)
There are so many things that if I tell you I could stay here for hours. Anyway, thanks for your reply. I really enjoy your feedback.
Sorry you had a bad day. I have to deal with very similar behaviors with dd. She has been doing it a lot at soccer practice and soccer games. Grrrrrr! Last year, she also did not cooperate with homework. She wasn't taking meds at that time either. It turned out that 1. she needed extra help in school and 2. she needed meds. 3. she needed a reduced homework load. I don't know if this is relevant to you or not, but dd wasn't able to learn in class because she was so inattentive and distractible. That made homework doubly hard.
Here is the most important lesson I have learned this past year. OK, here it is.
It's not worth it to fight with your children over homework.
I'm telling you from my experience that this could lead to ODD. Don't do it! Your son doesn't need another teacher, he needs a loving mom. Get him a tutor, do something to get yourself out of the homework business. Seriously, the cost is too high.
Okay, off my soapbox.
As to your being anxious about his behaviors, that is totally normal. But don't criticize him for it. (I know it's hard) That's what ADHD is. They are inattentive and distractible. They are not doing it on purpose. That is the way their brain works and it probably isn't going to change. I know that because my DH is still inattentive and distractible and he is 44! 
But he has compensated and is successful today.
So, for your own sanity, you could adjust your expectations for your son's behavior. And to be proactive in teaching him skills to compensate, such as having lists for everything, having timed timers to help him with time management, etc.
Sorry I'm writing a novel here. Lastly, is he actually interested in karate? I know sometimes we sign our kids up for things that are supposed to be good for them, but they could care less. I signed dd up for soccer, but she is by far the worst player on the team. I thought it would be good for her to get her energy out, but I'm afraid it just isn't for her. And watching her play is just excruciating for dh and I! So I asked her what she would like to do sports wise this winter, and gave her some suggestions(all individual sports, no team sports) She decided on ice skating and she is so jazzed about it! And for the record, I even pushed karate for her, but she adamantly refused. She had no desire to learn to hit and kick. Hey to me, that sounds like fun!
To each, their own, I guess.