How can I divorce my wife? | ADHD Information
Go to Las Vegas for your divorce.That's what my dad did.
Easy and sleazy. If that's your cup of tea.
You can get laid too. Sin City.
Use protection!
AIDS,Hep.C, Clamydia are spreading like wildfire.
Otherwise you may reminisce about the good old days of just dealing with head lice.
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You are just on a roll, world!
OMG, to make things even more confusing.............
My wife after not calling for a whole month, decides to call me last night.
This is really hard on me because deep down inside I still love her very much.
She was upset because her F-buddy "used" her and spent her money, then decided to dissapear. She called me crying and told me the headlice are gone (used keroscene) and she wants to come back to FL. She admitted to me how selfish she was and that she lied. Now it makes me feel better that she's wanting to improve herself, however, I'm not sure of my feelings.
One part of me wants her back, while another part of me just wants her to be with her good family in FL and I still feel like divorcing her. I still love her, however I'm not feeling a sexual need for her, I just feel love, and it's driving me nuts.
Ask Dr.Terrie
Advice on life,love,sex,rock & roll and beer.
Dear ADHDINSANE:
The best way to get someone to fall for you is to pretend to be really spontaneous and full of life and passionate and excited about life. It will wear you down, but you only have to keep it up for 6 months or so. And that’s what it all gets down to. Keeping it up. Keeping up your irresistible persona until they are locked in to the relationship. Then drop that sumbich act ASAP so you can recupe. It’s just like when you are at the lake and a hot babe walks by and you suck in your beer gut (or your gutto de Corona as you might say) and then as soon as they walk by, you let the flab bounce out again. And if they stop and talk to you, you just try to use a normal voice while you are pressing in with all the force God will give you, while hoping no air blows out your basement.
So you just kinda do that for 6 months or so, till it’s just easier for them to stay than start over with someone else doing the same thing. I better stop there- I don’t wanna give away ALL my advice in the first post!
Oh ! I forgot. You don't have a beergut. Never mind.
You can dedicate this to your ex to be:
♫"You're sort of everything I've ever wanted
You're not perfect, but I love you anyhow
You're the woman that I've always dreamed of
Well, not really...but you're good enough for now
You're pretty close to what I've always hoped for
That's why my love for you is fairly strong
And I swear I'm never gonna leave you, darlin'
At least 'til something better comes along"
Or you could end it.....
Till the head-lice all are gone"
Hey that rhymes with head-lights !
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[QUOTE=worldisround] Ask Dr.Terrie, Advice on life,love,sex,rock & roll and beer.
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all right, world--I know nothing about beer.
Or any of the other things
I see you're being sure to point that out...forewarned is fore-something...
Better a good laugh than a good beer !!
Erm..... yeah right..?
I hope things look up for you son.(I mean soon)
Try to keep your head out of your basement.
Alco-hole won't solve these problems at all.
worldisround39013.947025463 Hee...Hee
I said alco-hole !!
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The poster boys for ADHD insane !!!
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[QUOTE=ADHDinsane]be an AFC, but I'm having a really hard time trying to even get another girl to date me. Because... I'm skinny...quality girls don't want me...QUOTE]
Okay--I realize my taste is unorthodox (big Roman nose; braces; glasses; freckles; red hair; the skinnier the better, or anyone way overdue for a haircut where it's growing over their eyes), & since I'm Officially Arrogant, I qualify in the Quality Girls Category, regardless your criteria, & although I'm not a skank, beauty is in the eye of the...ANYway, only one opinion, I know, but if a guy looks anything but skinny, then he looks like an idiot--especuially if he's grooming muscles, or at all appears to be traveling in that direction. The instant assumption is well we're not exactly spending our time in the library, are we? Not like any one gives a 
, for what it's worth...
Seems like you want to eff her, & not necessarily in the "good" way (whatever that technically is), but in case it's not too late, I'd advise against that, for a plethora of reasons (& seeing that I'm Annoying & Arrogant Terrie, they're likely some esoteric ones) ...
I've been searching for hours on the internet, only to be run around in circles and being brought to endless advertising and false information and the same useless crap being repeated over and over.So that's why I am asking here. I'm just not sure what to do.
First of all, we have no children.
I left my wife at the end of June. I left my wife because she would never take any responsibility for her own actions, she had Head Lice that she would never get rid of, and she was cheating on me. When I'd ask her if she has got rid of the lice, she would lie and say she did, while I could visibly see the bugs in her hair!!!! Gross!
I even considered trying to get back with her, but when I saw her again, there was still a lot of lice in her hair, and she still lied and said that she got rid of them.
Because of her poor hygiene, and endless lies, and because I could never talk to her about our issues without her blowing up at me and blaming it on me, I decided to finally leave her.
It has been months, and I need to know what to do to file a divorce, without it costing me much money.
I need to get this over with so I can finally have some relief and stop having all these bad dreams almost every night. It's driving me insane.
Firstly - where are you? Many states and in Canada there are no-frills divorces that cost just the paperwork at the court. They assign an arbitrator (usually a judge) and they are like a rental - and very cheap. As long as one side doesn't go for demanding the moon it usually ends up being very amicable.
You've already been officially separated now for a while - many areas require around a 6 month or a year separation before they go ahead.
The best place to start is your local courthouse. They have pamphlets on how to do it (usually at the waiting line - good reading material). Read up and you can probably get the papers there so you can look them over before filling them out. You need to get a copy of a summons to her (some areas charge for sherriff to do it - you may need to hand it to her yourself it's hard to say).
Government sites help too. Check out in Canada it's www.justice.gc.ca/en
and in the US it's state-by-state. A google search you could put "(state name) information on divorce" and you will find the most relevant info. For example I typed in "Florida government information on divorce" - it gave the 1st search as www.stateofflorida.com and the relevant links to divorce.
Best wishes!
adhdisSane: Pardon me a moment while I hold my sides, relishing your topic title.
Okay, serious now. Well, not quite.
The hysterics must be because I can identify (with the wanting a divorce part). I personally possess the hygiene of a San Francisco Bike Messenger & am not ashamed to say so repeatedly. Cleanliness is overrated. But just like my house, I have to LOOK perfect/in order--nothing out of place & must be able to fool even my unforgiving eye. (My husband follows me around the house with a bottle of bleach--for the house, not me--he's a hypochondriac who's always sick & I'll eat out of the garbage & have yet to be ill)
But I gotta admit, I've never had head lice, so you certainly have my condolences. Did she cleanse w/any regularity when you proposed?
In California, it's go to the court & "fairly" inexpensive (whatever the heck that implies). Although I do not know your personal history w/your wife, I gotta say if you DO NOT HAVE ANKLE-BITERS get the heck outta Dodge! Before it's too late & you accidentally concieve.
terrie39007.4762152778I am in Florida. My wife discovered her "biological mother" lives in North Carolina (NC) and manipulated me into moving with her up to NC to be with her mother. I thought doing this would make her happy, because she pitched a hell of a fit when she didn't get exactly what she wanted.BTW, she only saw this so-called mother twice previously in her life, while me and my wife knew each other for over 3 yrs total.
I was already opposed to moving there, and I was really pissed off when she lied to me and NEVER mentioned the fact they had NO plumbing, or shower, or toilet!!! And once I got there, her family tried their hardest to break us up and interfere with our personal business. Her family got offended just because I didn't like to use the nasty bathroom they had, and tried to say that I think I'm better than everyone else. When I'd try to bring this to my wife's attention, she always got defensive and says "you will never like my mom, will you?".
Once we got into an argument because my wife wanted a drink, and I didn't hear her say "fountain drink" and she started yelling at me when I was pulling into a beverage castle type place that has bottled soda. To make matters worse, she called her family over the telephone, and got them all against me, threatening to kick my ass and stuff like that.
And she's still with her family, she's mad that I left her, however, it took her no time at all to find a F-buddy, and any time I mention on the phone to her that she needs to clean up her life and get rid of the lice, she simply does not want to hear it.
Even her sister and family in FL has tried talking to her, and she refuses, and just wants to live in filth with her biological mother and a head full of lice.
Maybe I fell in love too much with her, and need to finally end this whole thing to give me peace of mind. I've never cheated on her, and this is the thanks I get :(
And to make it worse, my ADHD screws with me, and I have to concentrate VERY hard to keep these thoughts out of my mind, because they randomly pop into my mind without me even thinking about it. I dunno, maybe I just need to get laid to help get this sh*t out of my head.ADHDinsane39007.7353587963To do the divorce, do I just need to go to the courthouse, get the documents, and mail her a copy of the divorce forms?
Pretty damn close. The fees are paltry in California, unless you're OD @ the bank--if you use one. Oh man--I just now saw your post just before & I totally have to jam or I'll set the alarm off--just pay the fees for filing--in California everything has to be filed/stamped filed by the Clerk of the Courts & it should be downhill from there, in more ways than one, I'm sure
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Ciao, bello--buona sera & buona fortuna!
OH! dang I wish you hadn't brought this item up insane! I get itchy a lot now!! ARGH!!!
Seriously though you have valid complaints. No kids plus self-loathing and unhygenic to a heretofor unheard of scale to me means DUMP!! Where is the debate my young friend!!??!! There are so many unlousy fish in this sea you wouldn't BELIEVE IT!!!
Thankfully no kids or you'd constantly struggle for teaching the basics, working lice combs 24/7 or shaving your daughter (or S) heads. Ugh.
Consider this a real-life learning lesson. And get those papers at your court house. Something tells me if she won't remove lice she won't fight hard for anything.
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I understand your post. I'm trying not to be an AFC, but I'm having a really hard time trying to even get another girl to date me. Because my mood may vary from day to day, I'm skinny, or because I appear "nice" it seems like the quality girls don't want me, while only the fat ugly girls and skanks flirt with me. f**k!!!! I can't get hard from an ugly chick, she has to be good looking. My wife is/was good looking until she let herself go, and let her hair get nasty and quit shaving.
Now I would like to reconcile ONLY if she proved herself to be worth of my love, and my sh*t test to her would be to see how she treats me for a month - without giving her any sex at all. Also I won't do her until she gets an STD test. If she really loves me, she'll stick around, if not, then I'm gonna be a horny bastard and f**k anything in sight.
Maybe I'm not making any sense and my depression and ADHD are making me so confused............. f**k ADHDADHDinsane39010.8417708333Damn, I think I need to get drunk.
Don't get too close to my responses--I shower once a week.(Water makes me itch until I bleed; it takes like a trillion years to get my hair this straight to look perfect for work; ...)
That being said, I think it's pretty clear you still have/had big-time feelings for her before she called you out of the blue. I think what you feel for her is indeed "love", but this time it's love with its eyes open--jaded love--whatever. I think you should acknowledge whatever feelings you're currently experiencing to anyone one who'll stand still long enough to listen (just not Her--way too risky--you're too vulnerable).
I think you're really wise to seek out objective/3rd party ears to vent to--nothing like verbalizing aloud to make the answer apparent like a sharp slap across the face. Just like therapy, only a lot cheaper. The more often you do it, the faster it goes, the better you'll feel & get on with whatever will take its course. Even if you two are to reconcile, I suspect a lasting confab/one that would have any chance could only materialize after a life-changing (well, maybe not that drastic) metamorphosis has occurred for each of you on your own.
terrie39010.6442361111That's NOT love, please don't succumb to it. My DH too has hygeine issues, no matter what I say or do, he won't change them. I am counting the days until it's over. I have no idea, and can't begin to understand WHY someone would continue to ignore hygeine issues. If someone, especially someone I was married to, told me something I was doing or not doing was grossing them out, I would be humiliated and you can bet it would never happen again. You are setting your standards WAY too low. Don't go back there!OH! dang I wish you hadn't brought this item up insane! I get itchy a lot now!! ARGH!!!
Seriously though you have valid complaints. No kids plus self-loathing and unhygenic to a heretofor unheard of scale to me means DUMP!! Where is the debate my young friend!!??!! There are so many unlousy fish in this sea you wouldn't BELIEVE IT!!!
It disgustingly reminds me of a girl in the last town I resided in - she worked with my last ex in the 7-11 as a cashier. She lived with hubby and his hillbilly (yes Canada has hillbillies so shut up!) family on a farm with little water and no power she told us. She'd come in with literally caked dirt from sleeve to knuckle and never washed before handling FOOD. Now on the scale of hygiene I'd bed and even marry that one before a lousy one!! You could do better friend at the dog track!
Hygiene and self-neglect fall under "irreconcilable differences" belive me no judge or arbitor would rule against you my friend.
Thankfully no kids or you'd constantly struggle for teaching the basics, working lice combs 24/7 or shaving your daughter (or S) heads. Ugh.
Consider this a real-life learning lesson. And get those papers at your court house. Something tells me if she won't remove lice she won't fight hard for anything.
Dangit I'll be scratching all night. This is way too creepy man.glen you're a lightwieght. My adhd imagination can magnify this 5OOx over & come up with MUCH grosser qualities--for one thing, smelly testicles come to mind, but only because I've heard of them, mind you, thankfully I've yet to experience this delight firsthand.
[QUOTE=ADHDinsane]she...just wants to live in filth with her biological mother and a head full of lice.[/QUOTE]
Okay, seriously now, I feel for you, babe. That pretty much sucks all the way around. She sounds as infantile as they come. I've already assumed that she had some awesomely esoteric killer qualities polar to the head lice &, I hate to tell ya', but hygiene-freaks (NOT to be confused w/Neat Freaks, seeing that I am one) are quite often pretty effing boring to know & what you see is what you get & nothing goes deeper than the surface yada yada yada...
Yes, you should definitely get laid. I second that. Just make sure you're not "covering/burying" unrequited feelings for Ms. Petri Dish.
OK OK.....I have to officially nominate Terrie as the resident forum hottie. 
Jeff
No response to that one, huh, Glen?...
This Cal gal says it like she sees it.
The aforementioned nightmare wife reminds me of my first.....only her folks were rich, and she had unkempt, oily hair...unclipped toenails....no self pride, but thank the Lord, no lice! I got an uncontested divorce after trying for 7 years to help her develop the traits she needed. Still cost me about 0.00 total.
Can't we sue for the grief and personal suffering? I figured a clean get away was better than money.
[QUOTE=Fryed2aCrisp]No response to that one, huh, Glen?...
This Cal gal says it like she sees it.
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Ok color me clueless - but what are you talking about?? I don't see any previous post here by you and don't understand.
Please - enlighten me.
I don't have a picture of 
Beavis, but:
Yes! Yes!
terrie I think fryed was saying it about herself. "THIS Cal-gal tells it like it is"
I still have no idea what I'm supposed to answer. None.
Also - for the record I have NEVER - NOT ONCE used another user name here. I used my name and last initial because I don't want to hide or lie or be other than the best person I can be - take me or leave me. But it's me GlenW or an impostor.
So what the heck was I to answer somebody ?!?!?!
I must've missed a few spots--did someone suggest that you were cowering behind an alias? Why, the very thought is unimaginable. Especially when it comes to you, my pet. I get the impre3ssion you'd take out billboard space & sign your name all over if it would fit![QUOTE=Jeff_R]OK OK.....I have to officially nominate Terrie as the resident forum hottie. Jeff[/QUOTE]
I'm overwhelmed with honor & prestige...
Who's holding the gun?
[QUOTE=GlenW][QUOTE=Fryed2aCrisp] No response to that one, huh, Glen?...This Cal gal says it like she sees it.[/QUOTE]Please enlighten me.[/QUOTE]
Yes--please illuminate us
Are you Cal-Gal?
I'm a cal gal. I posted i was born there but don't know who he is really talking about.
I think Terrie is a cal gal too ?
worldisround39015.9811458333Absolutamente! Northern Cali--born in SF
never even left . . .[quote=worldisround] ADHDINSANE:The best way to get someone to fall for you is to pretend to be
really spontaneous and full of life and passionate and excited about
life. It will wear you down, but you only have to keep it up for 6
months or so. And that’s what it all gets down to. Keeping it up.
Keeping up your irresistible persona until they are locked in to the
relationship. Then drop that sumbich act ASAP so you can recupe. It’s
just like when you are at the lake and a hot babe walks by and you suck
in your beer gut (or your gutto de Corona as you might say) and then as
soon as they walk by, you let the flab bounce out again. And if they
stop and talk to you, you just try to use a normal voice while you are
pressing in with all the force God will give you, while hoping no air
blows out your basement.
So you just kinda do that for 6 months or so, till it’s just easier
for them to stay than start over with someone else doing the same
thing. I better stop there- I don’t wanna give away ALL my advice in
the first post!
Oh ! I forgot. You don't have a beergut. Never mind.
♫"You're sort of everything I've ever wanted
You're not perfect, but I love you anyhow
You're the woman that I've always dreamed of
Well, not really...but you're good enough for now
You're pretty close to what I've always hoped for
That's why my love for you is fairly strong
And I swear I'm never gonna leave you, darlin'
At least 'til something better comes along"Or you could end it.....Till the head-lice all are gone"Hey that rhymes with head-lights !
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Thanks for your sense of humor, and good point, she was almost everything to me, except for the lack to improve herself, or learn anything new, or lack of motivation to get rid of the lice. I can act spontaneous and full of life again, because my mood is getting better, so it will be easier. I've also started a better job, and still have my old one, so I'll have more $$$ in the near future.
Also, feel free to give more advice, I welcome anyone that can give good advice!
Hmm, I wonder if her not getting rid of the lice was her weird way of trying to keep me from leaving her sooner. (she was VERY clingy) I mean, how can a guy cheat on his wife, or look for another gal, when his wife keeps giving him headlice??? I threatened to leave her several times, but didn't actually do it, until it was a big mess.
Thanks for cheering me up, you guys, I'm figuring out what I should do, and my heart is hardened now, I do not NEED a woman, only want one, and I'll be just fine in my pursuit for another. Also, I'm gonna play headgames with her because she's returning to FL hoping to hook back up with me, (promising there's no lice LOL) well, I'll let her think whatever she wants, while I won't fvck her, but I'll secretly sleep with other women, and when my finances are strong enough to get my own place, I'll finalize the divorce and kick her to the fcking curb!!!!!!!
I love this forum and all you folks!!!
Thanks again,
ADHDinsaneADHDinsane39017.250162037 [QUOTE=worldisround]
The poster boys for ADHD insane !!!
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LOL!!!!
I haven't laughed that hard in a long time, thank you!
yeah sounds to me like vindication is on the horizon...you must really have loved her.In an adhdinsane kinda way ?
Aww, come on now! Y'all could line up and pick each others' heads for some good ole "quality time"!!! Then you could exchange bottles of Nix for Christmas....
Just kidding... dump the bitch. I agree... start at the courthouse or call a lawyer. Good luck.
Tell her if she is really serious about wanting you back to shave ALL her body hair to prove the lice are gone. LOL
Then dump her bald ass.
Just kidding, be careful about revenge. You might sacrifice something more important inside yourself when you do get revenge.
good luck.
We demand proof!
Happy Halloween!!!
that might be too much too handle !
Am I right finger lickin ?
or is it love handles were going to get instead ?
Hello ?!!!!!! fryed ?
Yeah, donde esta, el Fried ?!?
Hurry & respond or watch me slaughter even more foreign languages . . .
Head lice does not equal filth. I know my child had it when she was younger and I was a fanatic about keeping her clean and my home clean.
I tried not to laugh at this post but I did. How can a grown woman walk around with bugs in her hair for months? A little far fetched.
Or the lice finally latched on to the brain after a couple of months & sucked the interior dry ?
yeah, totally. [QUOTE=Parduse] Tell her if she is really serious about wanting you back to shave ALL her body hair to prove the lice are gone. LOL
Then dump her bald ass.
Just kidding, be careful about revenge. You might sacrifice something more important inside yourself when you do get revenge.
good luck.
[/QUOTE]That's very funny
Very Devious!!!!
I'm having a little bit of a hard time, because I still love her, but I'm angry and hurt that a woman would put me through such sh!t. The anger is just as strong as the love.
She wants me back, but she still doesn't convince me that she's worth it.......
Sh!t like this is what takes the "nice" out of the guy.
I'll take some time to figure it out.
[QUOTE=ADHDinsane] Sh!t like this is what takes the "nice" out of the guy.
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I bet. Well-said.
adhdiSane: I'm really surprised she was clingy. I would've guessed flighty, fickle, serendipitous--kidding. You don't strike me as the type guy to be so ass-over-teakettle for someone clingy, but you did marry her.
Clingy Lice. Hmmmm . . .
...LMAO!!
[QUOTE=GlenW][QUOTE=Fryed2aCrisp]No response to that one, huh, Glen?...
This Cal gal says it like she sees it.
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Ok color me clueless - but what are you talking about?? I don't see any previous post here by you and don't understand.
Please - enlighten me.
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I think fryed2aCrisp beleives you have a thing for her ...and since when can't anyone just jump in on any thread here Glen? This is an ADHD forum!
I think fryed2aCrisp beleives you have a thing for her ...and since when can't anyone just jump in on any thread here Glen? This is an ADHD forum!
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Nononono - I thought that fryed was saying I wasn't commenting on a previous quote by fryed! I just went back and I still cannot see any connection to anything. I just don't get it.
Ummmm, Isn't Fried a guy. ROTFLMBO
[QUOTE=Fryed2aCrisp]
The aforementioned nightmare wife reminds me of my first.....only her folks were rich, and she had unkempt, oily hair...unclipped toenails....no self pride, but thank the Lord, no lice! I got an uncontested divorce after trying for 7 years to help her develop the traits she needed. Still cost me about 0.00 total. [/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Auntie]
Ummmm, Isn't Fried a guy. ROTFLMBO
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....That's what I thought too...but then when Glen said her or she I got sooo ...LMBO!!
[QUOTE=Auntie]Ummmm, Isn't Fried a guy? ROTFLMBO[QUOTE=Fryed2aCrisp
Besides davidOrnado, what guy--fryedXtraCrispy or not
--refers to himself as a 'gal'?
And if hyperFry'd is indeed a dude, then is he talking about moi?
[QUOTE=worldisround] I'm a cal gal. I posted i was born there but don't know who he is really talking about.
I think Terrie is a cal gal too ?
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Hey I'm a cal gal now Too!! Lived here for 2 months now.
cal gal now....I like that...cal gal now...it rhymes. (cal gal now)
terrie I think fryed was saying it about herself. "THIS Cal-gal tells it like it is"
I still have no idea what I'm supposed to answer. None.
Also - for the record I have NEVER - NOT ONCE used another user name here. I used my name and last initial because I don't want to hide or lie or be other than the best person I can be - take me or leave me. But it's me GlenW or an impostor.
So what the heck was I to answer somebody ?!?!?!
[/QUOTE] ROFLOL...I've missed you Glen...you have made my day!
(just say yes she's hot or no she's not)
fryed2acrisp is a DUDE,...DUDE !!
worldisround39018.1367013889[QUOTE=GlenW]
terrie I think fryed was saying it about herself. "THIS Cal-gal tells it like it is"
I still have no idea what I'm supposed to answer. None.
Also - for the record I have NEVER - NOT ONCE used another user name here. I used my name and last initial because I don't want to hide or lie or be other than the best person I can be - take me or leave me. But it's me GlenW or an impostor.
So what the heck was I to answer somebody ?!?!?!
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...Where the heck did someone acuse you of using another user name? Here on this thread? Where did that come from? I'm just allll!
[QUOTE=worldisround] The best way to get someone to fall for you is to pretend to be really spontaneous and full of life and passionate and excited about life. It will wear you down, but you only have to keep it up for 6 months or so. And that’s what it all gets down to. Keeping it up. Keeping up your irresistible persona until they are locked in to the relationship. Then drop that sumbich act ASAP so you can recupe. It’s just like when you are at the lake and a hot babe walks by and you suck in your beer gut (or your gutto de Corona as you might say) and then as soon as they walk by, you let the flab bounce out again. And if they stop and talk to you, you just try to use a normal voice while you are pressing in with all the force God will give you, while hoping no air blows out your basement.
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ROFLOL!! That is too funny
DR
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worldisround39011.4457291667
Can you get to Reno? I've heard they are easy to get and inexpensive both when you get them there. It would be worth it to never have to worry about her bugs.