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Thanks for the reply. I appreciate it.And, yes, this family knows about my daughter's ADHD. Maybe that's why it hit me as hard as it did. I'm not ashamed of my daughter's dx (but don't necessarily share it with perfect strangers). I guess I can't help worry that they are being prejudice.
Honestly, my daughter's behavior before class has not really been out of control. If my daughter was distracting this other child during class or running around before hand and getting their daughter in trouble, well, then, her parents would have a legit complaint. I just don't understand what's caused this sudden "issue" unless the other parents are seeing my daughter differently now that they know she's been diagnosed and is taking meds.
both my boys do karate, and once they step in the room Mater Kim is in charge. We observe through a glass window... before class a lot of the kids are out of control messing around etc.. some kids stay with there parents till he calls the class others mess around and practice there forms etc.. If his daughter wants quiet or whatever, she can sit with daddy then... I have walked into karate mayhem.. and have kept my boys out for a minute or two... leaving is always a problem for me..my boys are all over the place with there stuff.. I feel lucky, as several of the kids in our school have adhd and add, others are very quiet and there parents like how open and excited the other kids can be....
First of all, emailing you about this is totally inappropriate. This is something that needs to be talked about. As you can see, emailing a complaint to a parent doesn't help at all. Maybe during class you and the other mom can sneak out to get a coffee and discuss it there. Only now, it's totally uncomfortable! She obviously really avoids confrontation if she couldn't even phone you about it.
Secondly, it seems to me she is just going to have to live with it. I don't see any unacceptable behavior going on here.
Maybe you can say you didn't get the email. Perhaps your spam filter deleted it....
Sorry. I just need to vent! I just got an email from someone I consider a friend about my daughter's behavior. Now, granted, one of the problems this person had was justifiable...but the other complaint was not valid. I know, because I have been there, watching. The complaint was about my daughter distracting the other child before and after martial arts class. Note, that I said before and after - during class, both girls are doing what they are supposed to be doing. (But either way, like I said, I've watched and before/after class is not a problem.) The other parent said something like 'you know how insistent' (my daughter) can be and would I talk to her because all this distraction is making the other girl unhappy.Look, I know my daughter can be overwhelming/distracting. But something about how the email was worded just rubbed me the wrong way - as if this other person was saying his daughter is some perfect angel who can't resist the devilsih charms of my spirted kid.
I feel like telling my daughter to just stop talking to this other girl altogether. Heaven forbid, some "perfect" kid have to learn to deal with someone who's outside the box. Grrr...
Of course, I realize this probably isn't a good solution - like I said, I'm just venting.
HeyBoo39007.333287037Do they know that she's ADHD? Maybe they don't understand what's going on and that it's really hard for her to wait for class to begin, etc.
One of my kids had a friend who acted strangely at times and we didn't understand what was happening with him. He could really misbehave when he was playing at our house. I never complained to the parents, but he could really be a handful at times. Then one day his mother told me about his problem, and I can't remember what it was, it wasn't ADHD, it was something else. Anyway, I finally understood him and didn't expect him to be a perfect angel all the time. Knowing that it was a genuine problem and not just simple misbehavior helped us to understand him better.
I would respond via email that I will gladly talk to my daughter about distracting the other children before/after class. I would apologize. And then I would also ask her to please speak to her daughter about developing tolerance for others, and appreciating differences in other people because this is what makes the world go round. Life always involves dealing with people that you find challenging, so perhaps this could be viewed as a learning experience for her daughter rather than an annoyance.
She needs to be reminded that this is a two-way street.
[QUOTE=joemom]What is the other girl being distracted from? Putting on her shoes? [/QUOTE]
