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[QUOTE=poodledoodles]... My son changed dramatically with his school work when he was having social issues with other kids teasing, making fun of him, and making him an outcast with no one to play with or talk to. He was taking it out on the teachers in class and not doing his work. When I would ask him why he was acting this way he said he didn't know why. Kids don't always know why they act a certain way, or they just don't want to talk about it. Something to check out.
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Does he still has those social issues, if he not how did you help him?
I was in dd s school yesterday, shes has same issues, plus she s choosing wrong way to cache kids attention... Dont know what to do 
... My son changed dramatically with his school work when he was having social issues with other kids teasing, making fun of him, and making him an outcast with no one to play with or talk to. He was taking it out on the teachers in class and not doing his work. When I would ask him why he was acting this way he said he didn't know why. Kids don't always know why they act a certain way, or they just don't want to talk about it. Something to check out.
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Does he still has those social issues, if he not how did you help him?
I was in dd s school yesterday, shes has same issues, plus she s choosing wrong way to cache kids attention... Dont know what to do
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He does still relate to kids differently than most. tries to be too adult I think. When he was very young he would touch people, hit, and kick to get attention. Most times is is older acting than he is, but then he can be very childish as well. Seems there's no middle ground. Others can't relate. We had to take my son out of his elementary school because it was just too bad. His grades where dropping and he was depressed. He came home crying everyday and was taking it out on his teachers and I. It was the end of 6th grade and I knew Middle School would be even worse for him. I put him in Independent Study and he has been there ever since. He is 17 now. He loves it and has done very well there. He has several friends at the school and all the teachers like him.
How old is your daughter?
My daughter as you know has always done good in school and now in 3rd grade will not do her work and turn it in, I had a conference with the teacher today and we cannot figure out why. She talked about she may want to get her tested ffor resourse class and I told her I was all for it if she could get that one on one she could do better, because she's going to fail this year I know. and I was telling my sis-n-law about it and she was like she will not score low enouph for her to be in that class and bla,bla,bla. I had a honeroll child till now and I think her add is getting more severe and her hyperactivity is less. If she doesn't score low enouph how can I get her in resource? isn't adhd a disability? it affects how she does her work, rather she knows it or not she could get in that class . Tell me if I am wrong.Please.They do not consider AD/HD a Learning Disability,to my dismay. 
My son was in resource in elementary. At the time he was considered to have AD/HD and an additional learning disability though. I'd PM Lillian about it. She can definitely help. 
Are you sure she isn't having any social issues at school? My son changed dramatically with his school work when he was having social issues with other kids teasing, making fun of him, and making him an outcast with no one to play with or talk to. He was taking it out on the teachers in class and not doing his work. When I would ask him why he was acting this way he said he didn't know why. Kids don't always know why they act a certain way, or they just don't want to talk about it. Something to check out.
Hope you get it figured out soon. 
Is the work she isn't doing the things the kids all do in school or is she fighting homework also?
She may be dealing with distraction issues. There is a good chance she isn't choosing to not do it but that the ADHD is making it hard to focus, especially if there are any outside noises (rustling papers, a cough, another kid fidgeting).
Try having her bring any unfinished work home. You can put classical music on and let her stand or lay on her bed to do it. The object isn't to make her sit and do it but to help her find the way she can best focus.
My son's teachers used to keep him in from recess, which I really hated and still do but that did enable him to work on things when it was quieter and with less distraction. Now he is better about going into his room and putting something on the television and doing his school work. His teacher has had him stay after school also so she could help him without distractions. Most of the time the quiet is all he needs and she can do her own work.
You may even need to look into a different med. They don't all work as well on everyone, so finding the right fit is crucial.
[QUOTE=poodledoodles]...He has never really had a close friend through most of his life. 
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Well, me neither... No I lied, I had some great friends but they moved, war separated us and I never ever could find their adresses, miss them yet...
Maybe that is my reason for not having good friends again, fear... I found if I die now there would be no crowd on my funural 
But I have never been sad for having no close friends, just my family arround, so maybe our children for some reason dont need them too , just a thought...
[QUOTE=mammi]She is ten.
And she is soooo childish... acting like two year old ... rolling on the floor, touching kids, (thanks God she stopped kissing kids...), puting everything in her mouth (old crumbs, rubber, papers), talking in the middle of class, writing whatever she want and not what is she supposed to... Dont know what to do.Her ped dr said she is imitating her young bro! But her NP dr said that is anxiety and she want to gave her meds for deppresion... I dont think so... Somehow I beleive that just "proper talking" with child psychologist will help her...
I tried to talk with her and she kept talking that she doesnt know WHY she is doing that. I know she want attention but she is to old for behavior like this. Her grades are not so bad, yet!
This was too long, sorry but you offer me sholder for cry and I grabbed it .
Im glad your boy is happy now! And that he found new friends!
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Sorry mammi you are having such troubles. Here's a hug for you. 
Right now my son really has no close friends. He had two, but since he started working he really has no time for them and they are going other negative directions anyway. He has several friends at school to talk to and is making friends at work though. He has never really had a close friend through most of his life.
She is ten.
And she is soooo childish... acting like two year old ... rolling on the floor, touching kids, (thanks God she stopped kissing kids...), puting everything in her mouth (old crumbs, rubber, papers), talking in the middle of class, writing whatever she want and not what is she supposed to... Dont know what to do.Her ped dr said she is imitating her young bro! But her NP dr said that is anxiety and she want to gave her meds for deppresion... I dont think so... Somehow I beleive that just "proper talking" with child psychologist will help her...
I tried to talk with her and she kept talking that she doesnt know WHY she is doing that. I know she want attention but she is to old for behavior like this. Her grades are not so bad, yet!
This was too long, sorry but you offer me sholder for cry and I grabbed it .
Im glad your boy is happy now! And that he found new friends!