Why everybody says my kids is a problem? | ADHD Information

Hi everybody, I don't know if this has happended to you but my best friend and I have kids with ADHD, and people don't like to invite us to parties or get together sbecause of our kids. I think the main reason that this situaion happens it is because we as parents always are talking about the problems that  are children have and everybody already has in mind that our children are problem and they are talking behind our back that our kids are weird etc. You guys now what I mean.

People are so hard sometimes in judging kids and parents, it is so unfair to do this because they don't know what we go through everyday.

 

It is just like me a school. People talk about me behing my back and i can tell you right now. It hurts. I wish people try to understand...it is harder for use then it is for them.

I get the same treatment - read the "Did I Act Inappropriately" thread I posted.  People that aren't in the same situation just don't understand and never will.

I have also replied and had the same situations.  I am now trying my best to follow something I read that wasn't even ADHD related...

It said that the more negative you speak of your loved ones, the more negative they look to the others around them.  This pertains to your children, husband and even yourself!  What you speak becomes true in the the eyes of others. 

It is SO hard because we need to vent about our issues with our children, but we should be careful who we talk to, I think.  I don't act in denial when my dd does something innappropriate, but I deal with her on it and try not to "explain" or make her look like a "problem", kwim?  It is so hard - I definately have to watch myself.  I just thought it made sense.

If you say "my kids are great!", then others will be more likely to agree, or atleast respect your love for them.  If you say "gosh, I wish she would just listen for once" for example, then they will be more likely to nod and say "are the meds not working?".  I know you've had that conversation!  lol

Anyway, sorry to ramble. I just try so hard to keep it mind, for my sake and my family's.  If I don't support my kids and make them feel awesome about themselves, they won't and neither will anyone else.

Okay, after making it sound so easy, my final advice to us all is "F*** everyone else!"

Thank you all I try to keep it to myself for the same reasons people can be so ignorant.  I only share if it is a need to know basis.