ADHD moms needs a break!!!!! | ADHD Information

Amen to that! 

Especially the moms whose husbands are ADHD like mine!

I do not want to think about the teen years I only pray my girls relationship with me remains close so I can steer her in the right direction.

I really don't how we are hadling it, sometimes I feel that I'm going crazy and top of kids, problems with my husband because of the kids.   It is soooooooooooo hard, when it is going to finish, maybe never, Dr. Says that during puberty a lot kids don't have much problems because they are trying to control themselves but I really don't know, I have a friend that her boy is 24 years old and still taking Ritalin and given her problem.

Scary ........  They need a lot of help, but we as mothers also need a lot of help and support.

I hear ya numeca,

I worry so much about my youngest. I have a brother-in-law that has been on and off illegal drugs; and in and out of prison. He lost his family, won't take care of himself and he is in his late 40s. He was once a child with a very high IQ. I think if he had been properly treated as a kid, he would not have self medicated and would have succeeded in school. I soooooo do not want my daughter to go down this path and worry all time. They act so similar some times.

I was told that puberty might be better as well. Because my daughter just came out of the terrible twos (she is 10), a relatively normal puberty will look like a cake walk in comparison.

Okay.  I am going to be VERY honest and open here.  My dd and ds "biological father" is not my husband.  My husband is their dad though.  Their biological father was into serious drugs and horrible things.  Just one bad person.  He has been in prison since I was pregnant with Brandon who is almost nine now.  THAT is really scary. I don't want him to be like his father.  He has never ever met him and never will.  Sometimes I see the temper of his father in him.  It is scary

I have said this before in other posts.  My town needs an ADD/ADHD support group.  Everytown probably needs one.  For the parents and the siblings.  I would love it if I had one friend here in Tx that had a kid like mine.  My friends now really don't understand.  We MOMS need a pat on the back though.  If I can make it a weekend with my unmedicated child and still be sane today----HOORAY!

Thinking about my DS future scares the tar out of me.  My brother (35) has a long history of drugs and alcohol abuse.  To this day he can not hold a job for any significant amount of time.  My parents support him.  He has no drivers license due to DUI's.  All 3 of my brother in laws lost their drivers license due to DUI.  All of them have spent time in prison and all them abuse drugs and alcohol.  Of curse they were never given any treatment as children - and that fact is what keeps the flame of hope in my heart for DS.

Puberty is just around the corner and I am nervous.  One day at a time.  Although if he keeps spitting on the floor at home and in school he may not have to worry about making it to puberty - LOL JK- does drive me nuts though.

So I am not the only one, I am sure that my husband has ADHD but he does not want to know nothing about it it is enough with our kids he says.

I think we all worry about our kids. My DH was not or is not add or any kind of hyper.. I am the hyperactive one. I did have learning issues and still am not a good reader.. but, I did eventually make it through college at my pace.. No it wasn't easy.. but, here I sit at a desk.. me at a desk.. but, my desk is full of things for me to play with... I also have tons of pictures all around me.. people ask how I concentrate with all the stuff around me.. and a radio constantly on.. I had loving parents.. just like everyone here.. and they did there best and it worked.. I have to tell my DH this a lot.. we do our best and we support them and give them the tools to go out in the world.. no it is not easy.. but... at the end of the day.. when I check on my boys and give them a kiss, I am happy I have them and we made it through another day.. I hope this makes since to you all... My son now 16, is much better, than when he was young.  The turn around began gradually around age 12 and life has been much improved in our home.  He still has his moments, and our evenings are not that much fun if he forgot his med.s during the day.  So take heart, things get much better compared to how busy you are now feeling.  Yes he is a little difficult but I can deal with the occasional problem easier than the daily non-stop issues.  Good luck and remember your hard work and patience does pay off, more than you'll ever imagine now.