Yep,
First, is this happening when meds may be wearing off? If so, you will need to discuss with the doctor, optimizing the meds for full coverage and an easier time when the meds are leaving his system.
My 10yo daughter used to be very frustrated at school and was anxious, depressed and defiant. We got her accomodations at school to help with her work (IEP); started a positive reinforcement behavior plan at school and home (see the tread called Ogram's marble system); and would stay real calm (not escalating the anger by yelling) and tell her that we would discuss the issues when she calmed down. When she calmed down we would praise her for getting control of her anger. With this and meds, she now displays her anger in more appropriate ways and no longer goes into a rage at the word "no". Also, she would use very hurtful words and we worked on that to use more appropriate words that did not hurt others (not completely there on this part yet).
Good luck with this issue.
Hi! I just popped on and saw this, and it sounds like our son. He is nine with ADHD, when he dosen't want to do something he gets mad, and says mean things. I don't know how old your son is, but what we did was, we got a thick piece of wood, and nails. Everytime our son is angry, or says something hurtful we get him to hammer nails into the board until he calm's down. He takes his frustration's out on the board, and not on us. It has been working really well, at school he takes breakes with his teacher aide. They go for a walk, or he will run in the gym. The school said this has been working. I hope this helps, I know it can be frustrating, and hurtful, but hang in there your not alone.Thanks for sharing you guys.
My son is 5 by the way. Im going to try the marble system tomorrow (thanks vickie). He doesnt seem to have a time frame when this occurs(I spoke to his teacher today) just when he doesnt want to do things or gets angry. My son is in a private school so they do not offer IEP's but both his teacher's, this years and last, have been awesome in trying to help as much as possible in the class. His teacher and I are always in contact we even set up our own plan for him. I spoke with her this morning about setting up a place for him to go when he does get angry and she though that was a great idea (thanks for the idea nickybug). dmid- I am def. going to look into thoes cd's.
Vanessa
My son seems to be doing the same thing - worse since he started meds, and it seems to really escalate during his rebound.
Nickybug - I like that idea of pounding nails, seems like a good idea to have a specific way to release all that anger/energy.
I tried something similar on Friday night - my son was having an episode, I think he was coming off the meds - and honestly, I think it scares him and feels weird, and he would just run around and yell, I think trying to get rid of it.
I happened to think about a CD that he has. It is a local rap group called the Figureheads - and they put out this rap cd that is appropriate for little kids. Has all the same sounds as rap music, but all positive, kid-friendly themes. When I had gone to this groups website, I found out that they had written these songs to help special needs kids with coping with some of everyday life things. One of the songs is called "Push the Wall". It is about a child who is having a busy day and he wants to run and yell - but teacher and mom say no, and it is driving him crazy and he is feeling like me might get out of control because he can't release his energy. The song talks about pushing on a wall as hard as you can - and if you try it, you can really release a lot of energy. I got him to do it and five minutes later, he was calmly asking me where his jammies were.
I went to see my sons teacher on Friday and she told me that when my son gets upset he get really mean ( he does not hit or hurt them physically) and tells his friends he hates them. She also said that when he has to do things he doesnt want to or when he gets in trouble he will argue with her to get out of it. Here at home we have noticed the same thing, one minute he is ok then the next he gets really ugly. It seems to occur more when he gets frustrated or has to do things he doesnt want to do. I work with children and I know children get upset when they experience this but my son seems to get very angry and its hard to get him to settle down when this happens.
Since he has been on meds he has done very well except for this problem.
Has anyone had this problem?