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I have endless problems with schools with both my sons.  Not one of them understands the daily problems we face with our kids who both have special needs.  My son who has a low self esteem already was ganged up on by his class mates today. He got in trouble and was made to stand outside today by himself, with the result that he doesn't want to go back to school anymore.  I have a big issue with the teacher over this and, as she sent me a letter, I have sent one back in my son's defence. He's not completely innocent, I admit but I sometimes feel my son is so misunderstood that everyone finds him an easy scapegoat.I just received a call from my son's school a moment ago telling me my son pushed someone on the bus (this someone is the same kid who's been tormenting my son for 2 years).  Well, according to the school, anytime a child comes in physical contact with another, the police are to be called so they called the police on my son to file a report.  I just screamed at the Principal and placed a call to the State of NJ to see if this is a true law.  I am so mad I'm shaking.

Is it true law?!  I'm so sorry you are going through this.  Whatever happened to kids taking care of themselves!  You should tell your son that you are not angry with him if he was sticking up for himself.  That's rediculous...

I delt with that when my son was in kindergarten. My son was almost expelled for defending himself. ( We have told our kids that 1st time-tell them to stop. 2nd time-tell a teacher. 3rd time-defend yourself and hit back.  The public school was not happy about that but the private school we have them in now agrees.  If their employees will not take approprate action the child has a right to defend himself.)  There was another kid (class bully) who had family problems and was allowed to get away with it.  We had to threaten a suite against the school before they would do anything.  Each situation is different-hang in there and do what you believe is correct.  They can not fault you for being a PARENT!

I just called the State and it is a true law.  Not every district adopts it but our district happens to.   I had to call the State last week to complain about the service I am getting from Special Services and I'm sure this was they're way of getting back at me. 

I told my son that he is to defend himself but if they're going to call the police on him I'm not sure I should tell him to do it anymore.  This kid torments my son every day on the bus so am I supposed to tell him to just sit there and take it.

I've so had it with this school but unfortunately the only private school in the area is ,000 per year and I can't afford it.  I'm thinking of moving to another town though cause I'm about to have a nervous breakdown.  If it's not a note from the teacher, it's a call from the Principal.  To top it off, he's not hitting anyone (he pushed the kids backpack lightly today).  He's gets into trouble for talking in the hallways, making faces - all silly stuff.