Situation with another parent | ADHD Information

Ha, Ha, I'm thinking of the old adages that pertain to this situation: Don't start something you can't finish. And another one I saw on TV or a movie: Don't let let your mouth pass a check that your a$$ can't cash!

Anyway, I don't have boys, so what do I know. But boys play like that. That is how they learn not to start something they can't finish. So after a while, they will learn that if they take on your son, he is going to outlast them every time! Maybe your son can make a rule like, if you say "Uncle" then we are done.

As for the other mom, if her son is getting hurt, then she SHOULD take action. But I don't think she should complain to you about it. That's how the moms in our neighborhood handle it. We don't call each other up to report every infraction because we know our kids aren't perfect. The one time I called a neighbor was when their child (a boy, 6) pulled dd's (6) shirt down to see her boobs and made her cry. It wasn't that I was so upset about sex abuse, I just wanted to let them know because if he did that at school, he would be in BIG trouble.

I have another example of other peoples children.

My son went to play with his friend across the street. The friend wanted to wrestle. I was to later find out that he attempted to wrestle with another boy on the street 2 days in a row and his mother told him to stop it. Anyway, after wrestling with my son, my son hit this child in the stomach hard enough to make him cry. The mother made my son come home and was obviously upset. She stated that if it continued, she would not let them play together.

Excuse me, did she tell me that this would be the 3rd time in 2 days she asked her son not to wrestle another child and he did it anyway? I explained to her that by the afternoon, all meds were gone and that if my DS gets "jacked up", he cannot calm himself down like other children can. She stated that she understood but that if it happenned again, she would take action.

I am not saying that she was wrong to be upset, I did tell my DS that he is to never hit unless he is struck first. I am just saying that in his mind, he was being held down and he didn't like it. Was she wrong? Was I wrong?

I have this issue in my nieghborhood as well. Bottom of our hill we have 12 boys from 4-9. The wreslting and play fighting that goes on is endless. I have let the other four mothers know that if this gets started and there son is involved I don't want to hear it if Nate can't stop when there son is "done" playing like that.. I will step in if it is one of the younger ones.. but, if it is one of the others who are his age or older.. then I let it go.. most of these boys are very rough and they have there own issues going on.. so we just kind of let it go.. but, the mothers know and so do the kids.. as this has been going on since they were infants.. there are other boys up the street, who do not get involved in this.. they are always playing pick up sports. As for all the dads.. they just let it go as boys are boys.. they see it very differently the daddy's.. It is the mom's that are a problem with this stuff..

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...Don't let let your mouth pass a check that your a$$ can't cash!

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ROTFLMAO!!!!!

My response probably would have been: "Well, I guess he'll (neighbor kid) just have to suck it up and move on!"

I wish there was a smilie that was blowing a raspberry! That's what that mom needs. Crikey!

Wow. I've never heard a parent say anything other than "Well, that's what happens when you play like that" to their kid when they get hurt while wrestling.

Her threat was that she would not let the boys play together anymore. She knows how much my son likes to play with her son and visa/versa. The next day, my son threw this boys broken marble that he had found on the playground into the grass.

When my son and I got home, she called me and asked me to search my son's pockets as she thought he really didn't throw it away but took it instead. I did, told her that I did and that there was NOTHING in his pockets. My son apologized to her son and told him that he would help him find it. The mother was not amused.

You know something that I think gives you credibility with most teachers? Being able to admit when your kid is wrong, but standing up for him/her when you think he/she's right.

If it were my kid I'd tell him that the next time neighbor boy asks you to wrestle, punch his lights out! (Not really, but it would feel good to say that, wouldn't it?)

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...Don't let let your mouth pass a check that your a$$ can't cash!

You know, if my son askes another kid to wrestle and looses, i'm afraid he'd have to face the other end of my camera lens! I'd take a pic of him with the solar filter so every little mark will show up. then next time he gets that bright idea i'll show him the picture of him from the last time and he will probably change his mind! lol If the boy asked for it, she should not be over there threatening the other kids parents because her son got beat up! Crikey is RIGHT!

longsally - you did nothing wrong. The other women was upset her son got hurt and it is easier to blame the special needs kid rather than her own "sweetheart". I would have told her that I was sorry her son got hurt and I would be upset too if my son blatantly disobeyed me when I have told him twice already not to wrestle with the neighborhood kids. But maybe he learned his lesson now hum? I would have said that with a HUDGE grin on my face.

I am curious though what sort of "action" was she going to take the "next time". I don't like threats.

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But maybe he learned his lesson now hum? I would have said that with a HUDGE grin on my face.

I am curious though what sort of "action" was she going to take the "next time". I don't like threats.

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i like that one!!!!