People think I’m dumb | ADHD Information

Ha!

Nice to know I ain't the only one.....

You would be amazed at some of the things said to me.

People think I'm dumb and all I'm doing is proving them right by being lazy and not on the ball with things. When I'm stressed my ADD is a lot more obvious and it's very frusturating to deal with!!!I just tell people, Why bother showing you my huge intellect, you wouldnt be able to understand it anyway .  So I am trying to relate to you at a level you can understand.  Isnt that kind of me.I've had people think I was dumb before. As a child it would bother me and I'd think maybe I am stupid. Now as an adult I know I'm a lot smarter than the person that thinks that way. I actually have the opposite problem now. I'm an egomaniac. I think I'm the greatest think since sliced bread. The plus side of that is I never get hurt or offended by what others do or say. The down side is I come off as very cocky and mean to a lot of people. Sometimes I have to stop and think alright everyone knows I'm great but what I just said made that person feel horrible.

LOL Chaz that sounds so familiar I get a lot of that too

Your not even trying

You have to be stronger

Life is tough you just have to deal with it

Life isn't all fun and games

In fact I'm stronger then most people probably because of everything I've gone through(not just ADHD but other stuff on top of that). I get told I have to be stronger by my mother who cries easily and gets offended and taken advantage of by people all the time. It's always a double standard though, In the same day she will show her weakness in numerous situations. I will show it in one instance but she will immediately point out that I need to be stronger and that life is not all fun and games. Then I point out that my life has never been fun and games. I would kill for the chance to have any amount of time to participate in these so called fun and games that she always seems to bring up. I deal with a lot more than she does and I deal with it better then she ever could. Of course I'm the one labeled ADHD and she isn't so there is "nothing wrong with her" but there is "something wrong with me". I've been told that more times then I can count. It's not just my mother but a lot of people both friends and family that are the same way I just argued with her the other day again so what she said sticks in my mind when I write this.

Hey Cheeky,

It is very frustrating to have people think things about you that are not true. People think I am lazy or weak. I think women are often percieved as being not as smart or "ditzy". Being a man, the reaction I get is that I am weak, or less of a man. I "can't handle the pressure". I would never dream of letting on at work that I have ADD. Something like that is just an excuse for weaklings who can't measure up and are looking to get something for nothing. I have family members who tell me I should find a less stressful job. I get to hear things like:

"Maybe you're just not cut out for this"

"Some men just are not tough enough to make it, but that's okay"

"Some men care enough abut their families to get out there and really try"

So hang in there. At least we know the truth about who and what we are.