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we did when our ds was that age.  we ended up bribing and force feeding.  It was not a pretty time.  you might try taking him to a neurospy and see if they will give you some different pointers and/or ideas.  I know how you feel and can say with a large amount of certainty that as he gets older taking the medications alts and/or Rx will get easier.

When my son was little, we never tried to eat anywhere but fast food places that had the play grounds in them. We let him take a couple of bites and go play, come back for a couple more, etc until we were done, then we took the rest home.

The few times there was no play ground available we got our food in take out bags and when he acted up, we left. He did learn to sit and squirm after a while for a short time before we had to leave. Eventually he did learn to sit and eat but it does seem like it takes forever.

You know he can't control himself at this point so its pointless to even try to expect him too. Assume you are going to have to take him out of any place you go to eat before the meal is over unless its a place where he can play while you eat. You can let him know in advance that you are going to do it. Once he realizes he needs to sit for a while or there will be consequences, toss his food and give him a sandwich at home so he learns that getting to eat the restaraunt food  is related to his behavior.

As for picking up toys, try to make a game of it. Don't always ask him to help either. Just start putting them in the box and acting like its such a cool game. Count them as you put them in and say Yea, I got in, thats 10 points, etc.

First thanks everyone for all the advice.

Ogram,

  What exactly is a neurospy? Currently we are seeing seeing a behaviorial therapist, and she has given us the idea of the  sticker system. And as I have said that just does not seem to be working.

Thanks for the information though.

Oh and I wanted to add that I just found out that my DS's father's mother is diagnosed ADHD and so is an older cousin. His paternal grandfather is diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. Is this something else I should be worried about now at his age of 3 or should I wait until I see symptoms?

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The sticker chart worked for my son but I had to change it up a bit.  I let him pick the stickers at the time it was spiderman and I also made up a listening jug.  The listening jug had rewards such as dinosaurs, 10 mins extra tv, extra book at night, things that my ds loved to do.  At first everytime he listened I would let him pick something out of the jug, then as he started listening I would keep track of his listening and give him something out of the jug after the third or fourth time and continue until he was listening more. I used it for about 3 months.  And it really worked.   Does your ds have anything that he plays with that he really likes that you could subsititue stickers for?  Maybe that would work for you.

 

Hello there all!!! My DS is 3 and lately things have seemed to get worse. Right now we are trying alt. meds. but he seems to know when it is mixed in with food/drink. Lately he has been uncontrollable. He just will not listen. We have tried the sticker system but now he "hates stickers". He will not pick  up his toys so we have resorted to "throwing" them away. Everytime we head out to eat he will not sit down... he runs around the restaurant. We could bribe him but that dosn't work either. I feel like I am at my wits end. Anyone else have this issue???

We couldn't go anywhere!!! I'd have to get a babysitter just to go to the shops!!

It's not enjoyable for you if this is the situation - make sure you get your time out  -  When he gets older, get him a gameboy etc - for now, get a babysitter!

my kids love the gameboys we don't own one but my brother has one so we take them over there to play it.I would not even think about taking any of my kids to a restaurant when they were three.  They were horrible!  If you are traveling and have to go out to eat call ahead and order so dinner is ready when you arrive.  Bring toys markers play dough pop beads etc.  Take turns taking a walk while the other family members eat.  Take the kids food to go.  If you just pack up and leave a few times it starts to get the message across. On a funny note, I remember when my son was almost 3 and my daughter almost one, going to a restaurant with my in laws and at the end of the meal, he was running around the restaurant and my daughter was screaming her head off, and my mother in law had to have coffee.  So there she was, drinking her coffee while my husband chased my son around the restaurant and I carried my daughter around trying to stop her crying.  Looking back, it was comical.So funny!  When y 13 year old was about 4 we were at Joe's Crab shack.  A good choice for kids as they can dance around and there is an outdoor play area.  Anyway Jon was dancing and kicked his foot. His nasty sneaker flew in the air and right into another diners plate!  OMG!  Fortunately the guy had kids who were also dancing.  We just shook our heads! OMG!  That's so funny you mention Joes Crab Shack!  We have been there a few times since it is kid-friendly.  Well, the last time we went there(before meds, BTW), dd had a full-on melt-down and I had to chase her around the table to get her outside so she wouldn't bother anyone!!  And she was 6 at the time.  I guess that place can be overstimulating........Very soon thereafter we went to the doctor and started meds.  I mean, if you can't even go to Joe's, you need help!!  I can laugh about it now, but at the time I was so incredibly frustrated with her, I was ready to mainline Ritalin! This is just like my son was at 3.  We did not eat out, stopped due to his behavior.  We tried all kinds of behavior mod to make him clean up, etc..  Nothing worked until he was on meds.  My son showed ADHD symptoms before he was 1 year old!!!!!