I'm no therapist, but it sounds as if he has more than just ADHD going on. I'd get an in depth evaluation done - and I don't know how you can get him to agree, but he NEEDS to see a therapist. His anger issues could be just the tip of a much bigger iceberg. Have you and your DH considered seeing a therapist for yourselves?
We had an evaluation done earlier this year by a psychologist. He also has some depression and anxiety, but that's all the doctor diagnosed. I agree that he needs to see a therapist. My husband and I are going to start seeing a therapist soon. My husband has dealt with this kid all his life, and I've only had to do it for a year. I have depression and anxiety problems myself, and they are only getting worse by having to deal with this kid. BTW, my husband and his first wife (now deceased) adopted this boy as a baby.Hi--I'm new here. I'm a new stepmom of a 19 year old boy with severe ADHD and a low IQ. He lives with my husband and me, but I don't think this kid will ever be able to live on his own. He is physically 19 but emotionally only about 13. He is smoking, chewing tobacco, shoplifting, looking at porn, and his life centers around video games. He had a job at McDonalds but was fired recently and seems unable to find another job. He has no desire to go to college or to do anything to improve himself. He won't shower or change his clothes without a lot of intervention. He gets angry very easily. We tell him that if he wants to continue to live with us, he must live by our rules. But he won't. We have tried to throw him out, but he seems incapable of looking for a place to stay. He has very few friends, and the ones he has are a bad influence on him. He is on Concerta and Celexa, but won't take them all the time. He refuses to see a therapist. When he was working he bought a cell phone and ran the bill up to about 700 dollars a month! We convinced him to cancel the service, but he still owes 275 dollars and doesn't care about paying it. And of course, I'm the wicked stepmother because "everything was fine until Dad married you." I need help!! Any thoughts, ideas or resources would be appreciated!
Susiequte-new mom